Bridal Shower Games — The Good, the Bad and the Overdone
Games can make or break a bridal shower. The best can break the ice and
liven up the party. The worst can embarrass and bore. So, how can
you avoid this?
First, a little research...
First, list the showers you’ve been to and the games you remember.
Which did you like and dislike? Ask a few other gals to do the same.
Don’t ask the bride because the games should be a surprise.
Now, compare the games. Which games were played the most? Chances
are everyone has played these games and are pretty sick of them.
Avoid these overly popular games, unless you think no one minds
playing them again and again. Bridal Bingo again? No thanks!
The Bride
Take into account her personality. If the bride is outgoing and
loves the spotlight, find games that will make her the center of
attention. A shy bride? Choose ones that will put the focus on the
guests instead of the bride. An ‘anti-bride’ bride?
Center games around the theme of the shower instead of bridal-type
games. Ask the bride for her opinion without giving away the surprise.
Some brides simply detest being enrobed in toilet paper! A movie
buff may dig playing “Famous Couples.”
Guest List
Not all games are meant for all showers. Consider who will be attending the shower. Most brides would die of embarrassment if “Honeymoon Ad Libs” was played when her grandmother is at the shower! But, the same game would be hilarious with her sorority sisters. Don’t play ice-breaker games if the guests are already acquainted. No one wants to play a name game when they know everyone in the room.
Number of Guests
If it’s a large shower, avoid games where every guest shares
their thoughts/feelings/best wishes. That could take hours if you
have 30 guests! Many guests won’t know each other at a larger
shower, so plan an icebreaker where guests are split into small
groups. With smaller parties, you have more time for each guest
to be in the spotlight and share their best wishes for the bride.
The Theme
A way to spice up shower games is to play up the theme. A cooking
shower can have “Name that Spice” or “Gourmet
Vocabulary”. A wine shower? A wine term quiz would be fun!
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Guests want time to visit, so don’t have games take up the entire shower. Plan for about 3 games, but be prepared to ditch one if you run out of time. One 20-minute game and two 5-10 minute games will fit into most schedules. Decide the best time to play the games. Play one game at the beginning of the shower to break the ice. That way, guests can enjoy meeting each other.
Ummm… “Honeymoon Topics"
Sure, little comments here and there about “the honeymoon” are fine and cause giggles, but sex-themed games and food may embarrass the bride or her guests. Save them for the bachelorette party. Grandmother Myrtle will be shocked to realize that the adorable “saxophone” cookies were…something else!
Memories!
Sometimes what’s missing from shower games is the
reason the guests came in the first place…to celebrate the
bride! Creating mementos personalizes the party. Consider a “game”
where the end result is a memento especially for the bride. A memory
book, scrapbook, or hand-painted dishes are just a few ideas. What
about having each guest create a scrapbook page?
March 13th, 2008 at 12:49 pm
Hi Liz!
In many families, there is that Devoted Aunt Melinda who, even though she lives in the outer reaches of Tanzania, is GOING TO BE at your shower, even though it involves four plane changes and crossing seven time zones to get there. Usually, everyone knows who their Aunt Melinda is, and it’s good to send her an invite, or she’ll be crushed.
Outside of that, when you invite OOT guests who very likely aren’t attending, they’ll feel some pressure to get you a gift. The rules here used to be straightforward: no need to send a gift to a shower you’re not attending. But the situation is changing, and more people feel obliged to send one, or at least unsure. Keep in mind that these same people will likely spend an enormous amount of money to attend your wedding.
My advice: don’t invite people to the shower who probably aren’t able to come.
March 13th, 2008 at 12:28 pm
Should out of town wedding guests be invited to the bridal shower?