Including Children in Your Unity Candle Ceremony
Include your children in the meaningful lighting of the Unity Candle. The eternal symbol of two flames becoming one not only means two hearts becoming one, but an entire family uniting as one force.
Here are some ideas for you and your childrens’ Unity Candle Ceremony.
Have Your Kids Light the Tapers
During the processional, or right before the ceremony, have both of your children light the individual tapers – mom’s kids light mom’s candle, and the same for dad.
Have Your Kids Light the Unity Candle
If you have your parents light your individual tapers before the ceremony begins, or perhaps if you, the bride and groom, light them yourselves, also have your kids light an individual taper for themselves.
When it’s time to light the the Unity Candle, each member of your new family takes their own taper candle and contributes to the single flame. This is a beautiful, emotional way to bring your family together in a ceremonial bond.
Create Your Own Ceremony
After you, the bride and groom light your unity candle, you may want to read a poem or a special statement to your kids. Then all members of your new family can join their tapers together to the one Unity Candle. Older children could also participate in a reading about bringing your new family together. Talk with your officiant to create a ceremony that’s right for you and your children.
Make your children feel they’re already a part of a new family. Choose a Unity Candle specially printed with your names, your wedding date, and also your children’s names right on the candle.
Including all of your new family in the lighting of your unity candle makes it a unique, personal ceremony that everyone will remember for years to come.
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I’m getting married for the second time and I have 3 children. My kids father passed away so my soon to be husband will be adopting my kids. We are doing a sand ceremony as a family and I am looking for a saying to have engraved on the main vase to incorperate us a family unit. Thanks for any ideas.
Mandy,
Joining Hearts in a Circle of Love Creating a Family of One Then list bride and grooms names with childrens names underneath both of yours.
Stacey,
Thank you so much I love it!!!
My soon to be husband and I will be getting married on September 2011 and we have a daughter that will be 4 and a son that will be 3. What would be the best way to incorporate them into the ceremony.
Thanks
Chasidy NB,
You coudl always ahve them in the wedding like little flowergirl and ringbearer or mini bride and groom. Since they are so young this would most likely be the best thing for them. Then when they walk up the aisle or even ride in a decorated wagon, they could sit with a family member or friend. Some ceremonies have jewelry they pass to children or tell them a sentimental poem or reading. But young children have difficulty and may not understand. A token like a teddy bear or item presented to them is another idea with a hug.
Thank so much. That is exactly what I will be doing. Thanks!!!!!!
I am helping my best friend plan her wedding in 6 weeks. She has a 4 yr old boy and he has a 7 yr old boy. She doesn’t want to do a sand ceremony because their house is so small. Any suggestions are greatly appriciated. And it is an outdoor ceremony.
amanda,
the best advice i can give is to google search wedding ceremony include children. i took a look at some of the ideas but i may not pick one that is the closest tot he heart. i do hope it gives you some great ideas!! also search blended family wedding. i do like the family medallion it is a great way to include the kids or a special piece of jewelry.
Im getting married Oct 12 2008, this is both our second marriage, my finance has 2 girls ages 16 & 14 – I have 2 boys ages 17 & 11 – I am including a special ceremony “Combined Family” vows.. With our Unity Candle Ceremony, my oldest son and my finances oldest daughter will each light the taper candles and then My Finance and I will take one taper and light the large candle, This will unite the whole family as one.
Okay I have a 3 year old girl and our son will be a year old when the wedding gets here how can we include the kids since they are so young. Our daughter is a flower girl and our son is a ring bearer but how can they be included in the unity ceremony?
:-?If you decide to use rings to unite the children, what kind of ring would you use? I have 2 boys and a girl and he has a girl they range in ages from 9 to 12. We want to include them in our ceremony. Any suggestions?
I am getting married november 18, 2008 on the beach and want to include my 13 y.o. son in the ceremony with a ring if any one has suggestion please let me know?
:-? I would like some idea’s on what my children can do at our wedding ceremony. My partner and I share 3 children, we are finally getting married. We are doing the unity candle ceremony, but i think our children are to young to help with this. Does anyone have any age appropriate idea’s for me? My kids will be 4 (boy), 2 1/2 (girl) and 16 months. Please help…..
I am getting remarried. This is his first marriage. My kid’s and I live with him right now. They have come to love him. My ex concider’s him a friend also. So I don’t have to worry about that. He has asked my oldest to be a groomsmen. My daughtser will be a junior maid. My youngest boy is the ring bearer. Other than this we want to know how much we love them and how much they mean to us. Any suggestion’s?
Shonda – I have heard of that done before as well and it is a very nice idea. I have also seen it done were small lockets, pendants or bracelets are used instead of rings. Depending on the age of the child, that might be more practical. It also lets you symbolize the new family you are creating, without making them feel like they are replacing their biological parent.
WELL I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM AN IT REALLY SEEMS TO BE SORTA COMPLICATED. SO AT THIS POINT I’M TRYING TO THINK OF SOMETHING ELSE TO DO FOR THE KIDS. I WAS INTRESTED IN PRESENTING THEM WITH RINGS. SINCE I HAVE THREE KIDS (NOT HIS) AND HE HAS ONE(NOT MINE)-WE DON’T HAVE KIDS TOGETHER! SO I WAS THINKING THAT WHILE THE TWO OF US ARE MARRYING, WE CAN ALSO PLACE RINGS ON THE KIDS’ FINGER TO SYMBOLIZE THE SAME THING. CONSIDERING, WE’LL BE MARRYING EACH OTHER’S KID ANYWAYS. WHAT DO YOU THINK?
:-? I have a unity candle for my wedding. It has the bride and grooms name, wedding date and the names of all our children – he has 2 from before and I also have 2 from before. I bought taper candles and holders for the 4 children. Could you tell me how you would go about getting them all lit? I am having a hard time figuring this out?
Have each child light their own candle but with assistance from an adult such as a member of the wedding party of a grandparent perhaps.