For some brides, the wedding shower amounts to a real privilege. Although it’s certainly not the case for everyone, many a bride eagerly looks forward to the time when her friends and family gather to shower her with warm wishes, attention and presents in advance of the big day.
We’ll probably never know the exact story behind the bridal shower, but one that everyone likes to tell involves a poor Dutch girl who came up against the dowry system. Since the object of her affections (a poor miller) didn’t please her father, her father refused to cough up the requisite dowry, effectively scotching the marriage.
Of course, the surrounding townsfolk knew a good story when they saw it. One by one, they gathered useful household items, enough to support a new household. But even this wasn’t romantic enough, so the entire town kept the whole thing a secret until they were able to throw a giant gift-giving party for the lucky bride.
We humans love our independence, and the practice stuck. Yes, bridal showers have endured, even though times have changed substantially, with today’s bride likely to be older, more established, and quite possibly possessing everything she needs to run a household already, thank you very much. And yet, the practice of throwing a shower is still dear to the hearts of many brides, not to mention their closest friends and kin.
Still, as popular as they remain, it’s important to follow some etiquette rules. For starters, no one wants to think of the bride as being greedy, least of all the bride herself. Yet her friends can unwittingly put her in this uncomfortable position if they don’t coordinate with each other and end up throwing too many showers.
One of today’s most frequent questions concerning showers is, “can you have more than one?” Traditionally the answer was no, but the answer is changing.
Some Helpful Rules to Go By
Brides: since your bridesmaids and maid of honor are probably hosting the shower, make sure they can access your address book and guest list, so they know who to invite and how to contact them.
Also, remember that it’s your wedding party who’s footing the bill here, so the size of your shower may depend on their budget. On one end of the spectrum, you might have a very intimate little gathering involving only your closest friends and family; on the other, you might encounter almost every female guest who was invited to your wedding. It’s up to them.
Since there’s a method to the madness called the bridal shower, namely the giving and getting of household gifts, it’s imperative that you, the bride, ensure that your friends and family don’t go crazy hosting a bunch of disconnected showers. While everyone involved just wants to honor you, and your mom probably wants to make sure you never have to go without an egg slicer or a pizza stone, these parties do involve gifts, and having too many of them can make you look greedy.
Two exceptions that are gaining ground are the office shower and the out-of-town shower.
With the office shower, many of your colleagues probably aren’t invited to the actual wedding, since they’re probably more acquaintances than bosom buddies. Still, in many cases the office will want to throw you a party and be part of that day. This is an acceptable add-on to your “primary” shower.
The other exception, the out-of-town shower, is sometimes held by friends and family that can’t attend your bridal shower personally. This comes up with brides that live elsewhere but are “coming home” to marry and have many school friends and close relations in their hometown. In this case, you wouldn’t attend the bridal shower, but the hostess would gather the presents and bring them to your reception.
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June 27th, 2008 at 12:26 pm
Is it appropriate to include friends that hosted an engagment party for my daughter to a wedding shower for her?
June 25th, 2008 at 6:14 am
Hello,
I have a bridal shower to go to and it’s a casual cookout and no theme. Is it okay to buy a gift off their registry and have it shipped to their house rather than bringing a gift to the shower? If so, should I bring a card to the shower?
Thank you for your time,
Jamie
June 22nd, 2008 at 2:22 pm
How far out from the wedding should a bridal shower be given?
A month? Is two months too far in advance?
Thanks,
sandra
June 18th, 2008 at 12:50 pm
My daughter’s wedding is quickly approaching. A friend of mine wants to hold a shower for her however it will have to occur after the wedding. Is this appropriate or tacky?
June 15th, 2008 at 11:25 am
I am the mother if the groom and am atttending two showers, should I have a gift for both? What are your thoughts
Thanks
June 14th, 2008 at 10:57 am
Is it proper to show up at the bridal shower without a gift as a bridesmaid? I am under financial strain and would like to go to the shower but I just don’t have a gift at this time
June 6th, 2008 at 4:06 pm
HELP!!!
As a MOH, how do I explain to a bridesmaid that having a bridal shower the day before a wedding is not a good idea?
All the other bridesmaids agree, as well as the mother of the groom and the groom, that the shower can not be the day before the wedding (the bride only has a small, extended family of about 5 women on her side- of which are only distant cousins and sister in laws, so there is no one on her side really to ask for input)!
This bridesmaid however is refusing to understand that for the majority of people invovled the week/day before does not work, because in her eyes she MUST be at the shower because she is a bridesmaid. Since she lives out of state and she can’t make it up till 5 days before the wedding she thus wants the shower to be the week/day before. I have tried everything to make her understand, including talking about etiquette, expenses, etc, but she just wont listen to anything anyone has to say. I’m out of ideas of how to explain to her that it’s just not going to happen the day or week before the wedding.
I tried sugessting she have her own special day with the bride when she comes up for the wedding so they can have some bonding/special time, but she refuses and still insists she be at the shower. She has even already called the bride to complain!!!
Again, the week/day before does not work for the groom, the future mother in law and her family, and for 2 of the 3 bridesmiads including myself the MOH; yet this one person sill is demanding it be her way.
Any suggestions on how to tell her it just isn’t possible would be greatly appreciated.
May 21st, 2008 at 12:39 pm
We have to limit the number of guests invited to the wedding and want to invite friends of the brides mother to a “close friends and family” shower. These friends also know the bride but will not be invited to the wedding. Is this appropriate?
April 14th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
I would like to host an office shower for an employee so those who are not invited to the wedding may celebrate with her. However, there is not time before the wedding. Is this acceptable?
April 4th, 2008 at 11:08 am
How much does the mother of the bride spend on her daughters wedding shower gift? She is only having one shower..I have no clue…the shower is tomorrow, help!
April 2nd, 2008 at 10:07 pm
There is the trend to have more than one bridal shower. If you are invited to more than one shower, is the invitee expected to present a gift at each shower as well as a wedding gift?
April 1st, 2008 at 2:18 pm
i am invited to a bridal shower for one of my friends. she has been living with this guy now for over 8 years and they have 3 children together. do you get them anything. they have everything they need. and i really don’t want to go the shower.
March 27th, 2008 at 9:43 pm
HI, I HAVE A QUESTION. MY WEDDING IS IN OCT AND I LIVE IN WASHINGTON AND OUT WEDDING IS IN NEBRASKA. I WAS WONDERING IF THERE IS A WAY THAT I CAN ASK PEOPLE NOT TO BUY US GIFTS AND MAYBE JUST DO CASH OR GIFT CARDS? WE THINK THAT ALL THE GIFTS WILL BE HARD TO SEND BACK TO OUR HOME AND BE COSTLY. IS THERE A WAY TO DO IT BY WORD OF MOUTH OR SOMETHING SO WE DONT OFFEND ANYONE?
THANK YOU!
March 24th, 2008 at 11:31 am
My sister eloped this week, are we suppose to still have a shower for her?
March 23rd, 2008 at 8:45 pm
If you invite someone to the shower, it is proper to invite that person to the wedding for which the shower is being thrown. If you only invite someone to the shower, they feel they are being asked to the gift giving party and not to the joyous celebration.
March 23rd, 2008 at 8:29 pm
Does everyone invited to the shower also get invited to the wedding if the wedding is out of town? I do not want people to feel they are required to buy/send 2 gifts. Thanks
March 5th, 2008 at 12:32 pm
Know that even though she is inviting 60, they won’t all show up. As a recent bride who had a large guest list, it was not about being a “gift-piggy”, but rather wanting to spend time with the women who were important to me in my life. If the list is 60 because she is inviting most women on her invite list, then it might be a good idea to re-evaluate the list. Inviting her cousins’ girlfriend is not necessary unless she is REALLY close with her…be sensitive to her if you are going to ask her to cut down her list. If you were planning on having a smaller shower–suggest that to her and say, I was planning on having a shower of about 20 people, do you think you could reduce your list to 30 or 40. also if there are people, other than the bridesmaids or immediate family that are going to be invited to another, maybe just invite them to one…
Remember all the bridesmaids get invited even though they may not come if they live out of town–so that can make the invite list go up, even though they will not attend.
hope this helps…
March 5th, 2008 at 11:33 am
Um… So I’m the MoH for my best friends wedding and she wants SIXTY people at her bridal shower… Correct me if I’m wrong but doesn’t that look bad to invite 60 people when she a. only has 150 people invited to the wedding in the first place and b. plans to have two bridal showers as it is to have one couples shower for college friends and one girls-only shower more for family? Kinda screams gift-piggy to me… but I don’t know if I should tell her that.
Eek!
March 3rd, 2008 at 10:46 pm
I just attented a shower of a very close friend of mine and we played games and i happened to “win” one of them and got a prize at the end of the shower my friend pulled me aside and told me that when you win something at a shower you are supposed to give it to the bride i have never heard of this before advise please
February 22nd, 2008 at 2:33 am
Kimberly, the answer to “when to have the bridal shower” is “when it makes sense for the bride.”
Typically this is between 6-8 weeks before the wedding, but that might be different for you. That period is traditional, with the idea being that it’s close enough to the wedding to be part of the fun, but not so close that it adds to your stress load for the main event.
OTOH, brides traveling to an out-of-town wedding often want the shower a LOT closer to the big day. For you it might be earlier.
Have it when it will be fun for you.
February 22nd, 2008 at 2:28 am
Rose –
You can’t (as a matter of etiquette) tell people on the invite how or where to buy gifts for a shower, unless you’re willing to go all-out and declare it a “money shower” or a “greenback shower,” which will probably offend some.
However, with an out-of-state bride, guests are likely to ask the hostess for direction. You can suggest they buy their gifts online and ship directly to the couple. Or, you can hold the gifts and present them at the wedding if it’s taking place locally later on.
Gift certificates are also getting more popular and occupy a gray area between “gifts” and “cash” that make them more acceptable to some people who dislike cash, so perhaps you could suggest those.
Either way, leave it off the invitation and spread the news via worth of mouth, when people ask.
February 22nd, 2008 at 1:10 am
Hi,
I’m having ALOT of trouble when it comes to showers and parties. People have been coming out of the wood works to throw me these. As of now I believe I have 12 more before my wedding in June. I have already had 3. Needless to say, I am running out of people to invite. I have heard that it is improper to ask the same person to an event where there are gifts twice. What do you suggest I do?
Caroline
February 22nd, 2008 at 12:28 am
Carol:
There’s no rule that says you have to send a gift to a bridal shower you aren’t attending — especially since you aren’t close to the bride and groom. That said, if you’re going to the wedding, or it’s a case where you’re close to the bride but just can’t make the shower, then you might want to send one … but don’t feel obligated.
February 21st, 2008 at 10:33 pm
Hi Susan,
typically the bridesmaids and close relatives (MOB and MOG) are invited to all showers.
It’s important that the bride communicate clearly to everyone that guests invited to multiple showers should NOT bring gifts to more than one.
February 21st, 2008 at 9:57 pm
OK. Val/Katrina, this my take.
There is no ‘proper etiquette’ answer to Katrina’s question. That’s because there are no etiquette guidelines for the bride who has shower after shower — that is not traditional. It also can cause a lot of mis-communications and hard feelings.
Katrina, according to tradition, you would attend ONE shower. The fact that you are attending more means you’re investing a significant amount of time, and probably money. Although everyone agrees that no one should have to buy more than one bridal shower gift, that leaves guests feeling awkward when they attend the second or third shower empty-handed.
You should NOT feel bad for missing one out of three showers, nor should you change up all your plans to make all three. Just explain politely to the bride that you have prior commitments that day, so she doesn’t worry that you’re somehow snubbing her. These events seem to bring out the insecurities in everyone.
February 21st, 2008 at 5:56 pm
What was the answer to Katrina’s email on Nov. 16, 2007?
February 19th, 2008 at 2:15 pm
I MISSED THE ANSWER TO LISSA 1/22/08-REGUARDING THE APPROPRIATE WAY TO WORD AN INVITAION WHEN THE BRIDE IS TRAVELING IN TO TOWN FOR THE SHOWER AND REQUEST THAT GIFTS BE SHIPPED DIRECTLY TO THE TOWN THEY RESIDE IN. PLEASE HELP.
January 23rd, 2008 at 4:46 pm
Does the mother of the bride go to all the bridal showers? Thanks
January 22nd, 2008 at 1:23 pm
What is the appropriate way to word an invitation when the bride is traveling in for a shower in her home town and requests that gifts be shipped or people contribute to a “money tree/bridal bank” in lieu of gifts?
January 8th, 2008 at 4:34 pm
My brother now lives in a different state. Him and his fiance are getting married in the other state and her bridal party is holding a shower out there. My brother has asked our family to hold a separate shower here in our home state. We don’t feel this is necessary and there will also be many relatives on our side of the family who will not be in the area at the time. Is is correct to have this 2nd shower?
January 6th, 2008 at 10:57 pm
I have a question - I was reading the “out of town” shower scenario - but I have a quandry - my daughter, who lives in GA, is getting married in GA, and is unable to travel as she has a small infant and work obligations - the wedding is in 10 weeks, very small, only family, but all coming from about 5 different states - there is no simple way to hold a shower in a location that works for anyone - is it impolite to do a “registry bridal shower” only? - similiar to a “tupperware book party” versus having an actual event?
December 21st, 2007 at 5:09 pm
I live in New Orleans and have been dealing with rebuilding. I have a friend who got married on July 7, 2007. The wedding was a little rushed since they liked the 7-7-7 date. I had hoped to have a shower before the wedding but we wanted to invite several people who were not invited to the wedding. They had the wedding in a very small chapel and had to monitor the number of guest closely. Things happened and we still haven’t had the shower. I am now thinking a 6 month anniversary theme party would be a great idea. What are your thoughts and ideas.
November 21st, 2007 at 11:29 am
I was invited to a shower, don’t know the bride, know the groom. I can’t make it, should I send a gift??
November 16th, 2007 at 8:46 pm
I am the MOTG and can not attend the Shower given by the Bride’s Family. I have previous plans for that day. I will be attending two other showers, one given by our Church and the other by my family.
Is it okay to miss the shower given by her family or should I try and change my plans?
October 9th, 2007 at 11:33 am
I have a Question I am having my wedding feb 16 and i have so much to that I just wanted to know that having my Bridal shower a few month early would be in bad taste i have six kids i have to get fittewd for this wedding and all the family and friends to get them on the ball this is just one thing i would just like to get out of the way and be able to focus the thing i need to get done everybody is so slow please give me you feed back on this thank you
kimberly
October 9th, 2007 at 12:51 am
Hi Ann! Here’s my thoughts (but I welcome anyone else’s).
What you’re proposing is obviously not one of the ‘official’ pre-wedding parties, so it wouldn’t have established rules of etiquette like they do.
That said, I think it’s a very lovely and touching idea for you to honor the MOTG in this way. Now that weddings are primarily planned by the couples themselves without a lot of input from parents, the average MOTB probably plays a smaller role than she’d like — and the MOTG has never really gotten to put in more than a cautious two cents, if that.
This would not be a gifts party. The original purpose of the bridal shower was for friends (not relatives of any kind) to supply the bride with the necessities to live on, even if the groom she’d chosen wasn’t considered ’suitable’ by the parents and they’d withdrawn their support. Even today it’s considered important for the bride’s close friends (bridesmaids), NOT parents or other relatives or their friends, to host a gifts party.
However, it’s always best if this party or luncheon is one where guests do not have to pay their way. If that isn’t feasible and your guests are fine with going dutch, you can always celebrate at a restaurant, being sure to pay for the MOTG’s meal (of course!). And in lieu of gifts for the bride, if there’s some way to present the MOTG with something personal involving her son, such as a specially framed photograph of the couple, she’d probably be very pleased.
Finally, inviting the bride is a personal decision, but my feeling is that if the bride is present at the party, the festivities will naturally focus on her, and the MOTG may be shy about potentially taking away any of the limelight … which may not be what you intended.
October 7th, 2007 at 9:24 pm
My good friend’s son is getting married. I don’t know her son or daughter in law to be extremely well BUT I would like to have a luncheon for her (mother of the groom) - is that appropriate and if so, do I also invite the bride? What about gifts? Thank you!
Ann
October 6th, 2007 at 10:45 am
Donna, about 4-6 weeks before the wedding is traditional.
But this is flexible. The idea behind 4-6 weeks is that it’s “not too close” to the wedding, so the bride won’t necessarily be too stressed by planning to enjoy the shower. Still, for some brides, this may actually be too close.
Another consideration is if you have out-of-town guests coming, or if the bride herself is out of town. In that case, just pick a date when everyone can be there.
October 6th, 2007 at 10:33 am
how far ahead do you need to have the bridal shower
October 3rd, 2007 at 11:24 am
just want to know if it would be bad taste to have the bridal shower a few month before the wedding since there is so much going on a few weeks before the wedding and it just being something i want to get out of the way
September 28th, 2007 at 10:47 pm
Oldest daughter got married 18 months ago. Her 15 YO sister was her maid of honor. Shower thrown by bridesmaid. Younger daughter getting married now. Sister is maid of honor, two cousins who are very young live 3 hours away, sister not working/tiny house/financialy strapped and shower would have to be at mother of bride’s house. Groom’s aunt having shower. Bride mad at sister and her mom for not hosting. What should we have done?
September 5th, 2007 at 7:05 am
August 30th, 2007 at 9:29 pm
Is it appropriate for the groom to ask his mother to throw a shower for the bride when his side of the family is excluded from the shower already being thrown by the brides sister? What should she do?
August 30th, 2007 at 7:23 am
My wedding was very quick and nice. We planned it in 4 days. My two friends helped. Obviously we could not invite alot of people. My friends would like to have a bridal shower after the wedding. Also we just got a new apartment and we have bought all our things already. Would it be ok to have the shower after the wedding. Also we would have to ask for monetary gifts only. Do you think that would be good taste. Thanks
August 26th, 2007 at 8:34 pm
I do not have enough guests to invite for a bridal shower to be held here. How can I have a “No show” shower & send the 3 registry sites ? Can I send each guest on the invitation a gift since I would not really hosting a physical shower ?
August 21st, 2007 at 1:58 pm
August 8th, 2007 at 11:53 am
Just explain to her. If she’s really your friend, she’ll understand. Tell her you’ll take her out to a special lunch or dinner with just the 2 of you. These conflicts happen in life. It will be OK.
August 7th, 2007 at 3:58 pm
My brother and his future wife are trying to keep the wedding fairly small being a second for both of them. I am holding a wedding tea as a shower (I’m the sister of the groom). Is it allowed to invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding.
July 24th, 2007 at 9:31 pm
my MOH is throwing a shower and my fiance’s sisters are also throwing me a shower. They live 5 hours away. Is it appropriate or greedy to also invite his mother and sisters to the shower that my MOH is throwing?
July 18th, 2007 at 2:18 pm
Thanks your opinion helps. The groom’s family is well aware of the brides twin sister.
July 18th, 2007 at 9:40 am
Judy Hammond writes “The grooms Mom’s friends are hosting a couples shower. My daughter was not allowed to give a guest list. The only guests will be my husband, the grooms Mom and Dad, the grooms sister and friends of the grooms Mom and Dad. My daughter (the bride) has a twin sister who is disabled. She was not invited! We feel deeply offended by this. Anyone agree with us?? “
I agree with you and feel you should be offended by this. IF the groom’s siblings are invited to the party then your Immediate family ( you, your husband, the bride and her twin sister should be invited.) Your daughter (the bride) needs to speak up about it. She needs to first talk to the Groom and explain that she is upset about her twin not being invited to the shower. They ( groom and bride) need to sit down with the Groom’s mother or the Groom’s Mothers friends and explain to them that she really wants her sister to be there. IT could be that the Person ( Groom’s Mom’s Friend) planning the party did not know the bride had a twin and its just a small misunderstanding because she doesn’t know the bride very well. I feel that the sister should be allowed to go because she is part to the family. Hope this helps.
July 17th, 2007 at 3:30 pm
The grooms Mom’s friends are hosting a couples shower. My daughter was not allowed to give a guest list. The only guests will be my husband, the grooms Mom and Dad, the grooms sister and friends of the grooms Mom and Dad. My daughter (the bride) has a twin sister who is disabled. She was not invited! We feel deeply offended by this. Anyone agree with us??
July 8th, 2007 at 11:36 am
I am getting married in March but we are going to Vegas to do it. My mom and son will be there but that is it. Is it innapropriate to have a bridal shower at home before the wedding? No one who could attend would be able to fly out for the wedding.
July 7th, 2007 at 9:20 pm
I am the mother of the groom. I have enough people to invite to a bridal shower but I don’t think it is proper for me to host one. I would like my sister in law to do it but I can’t ask her to. I don’t know what to do. Any suggestions?
July 7th, 2007 at 3:47 pm
I want to give a coworker a office bridal shower. She’s not planning on inviting anyone. Some they want to do this also and other’s are acting as if nothing happening. What to do? Ask for money for gift card or ask coworkers to bring in gifts. What do we eat? and what about decorations. Her mother works at our place of work (different dept.). Should I include her or get her advice on what to do?. Please help I feel kinda arkward.
July 2nd, 2007 at 10:03 am
My sister eloped a year ago but is still planning a huge wedding ceremony for this July. She is having 5 bridesmaids/5 groomsmen, the white dress, the vows, and over 250 guests. She is having a bridal shower and all the normal festivities that go with a traditional “wedding”. Is this proper? She is expecting our parents to pay for most of the “wedding” but is not letting my mom help her with any of the decisions, she is going to her mother-in-law for help. She only calls our mom when she needs a check. She is also expecting major payback in regards to her gift registry. Everything she has asked for is really expensive. Any suggestions on how to deal with this bridezilla?
April 9th, 2007 at 4:32 pm
It depends a lot on your relationship with your future daughter in law and the type of shower you are attending. The fact that you are not sure is probably a fairly good indication that it might be awkward. Of course, if it is a lingerie party - then go for it!
April 6th, 2007 at 5:14 pm
Is it inappropriate for the grooms mother to buy the bride a nightgown and robe for a bridal shower gift? I found a beautiful one on a great sale but am worried it might not be proper.
April 3rd, 2007 at 8:27 am
Lisa Says:
I am the sister of the groom, am one of the bridesmaids, and live nearby all three bridal showers…
Lisa - you should make every effort to attend all three of them since you are a bridesmaid and close family. Welcome to one of the duties of saying “Yes, I’d love to be in your wedding”.
You are not however, required to bring a gift to each shower. One gift will be plenty. Or if you wanted to do something kinda fun….you could find a gift that would have 3-parts to it, wrap each one separately and give it at each shower. You could include a note so she is clued in and the final shower, voila!, she knows the total gift is!!
Good luck!
saundra hadley, wedding event planner
planning…forever | weddings & events
April 3rd, 2007 at 8:21 am
Lisa Says:
my fiance’s mother gave us a list of over 30 people from her side…
Hi Lisa. This is a sticky situation. But you can simply read the other posts to see how other people will feel bad if they are not invited to the showers so I sympathize with your future mother-in-law. All of these guests are invited to the wedding, yes? And hopefully most of them are truly family not work buddies and so forth?
If your mother did not give stipulations on how many she could invite, then yes she can invite them all - especially if they are family (your NEW future family). My recommendation would be to scale down the type of shower to accommodate everyone so the expense is low. Your sister has the right idea. I would think your fiance’s mother should offer to help financially since her number is significantly higher than the others…but that may not happen, so don’t count on it and don’t ask. If you’re lucky only 22 will show up (75% of the total).
Good luck!
saundra hadley, wedding event planner
planning…forever | weddings & events
April 2nd, 2007 at 4:38 pm
My soon to be sister-in-law is having three showers. One of the showers my aunts and sister and I are giving her the other two are friends throwing them. One of the other ones my mother and sister got invited to but not me…I’m very upset.
March 7th, 2007 at 9:59 am
I am getting married in september. my sisters and mother are throwing me a shower and my fiance’s mother gave us a list of over 30 people from her side. My mom thinks the number is ridiculously high and my sister says “well figure it out”. my fiance’s family is really big and I’m know his mother feels bad about having so many guests but cannot not invite some of them. is there a way to compromise. Should she help pay?
February 22nd, 2007 at 10:02 am
I am the Mother of the Groom and need information on who from my office should be invited to the wedding. Some of my coworkers have only met my son once or twice. Would it be proper to invite them?
January 7th, 2007 at 9:06 am
I am the mother of the groom and my family wants to have a shower for the bride and groom in our state. That would not be so unusual for our family, but the bride lives in another state as well as my son at the present time and the wedding will be in another state. Is it acceptable to have a shower in our state as well? OR Do we just send invitations and have them sent to one address and we mail the packages to them The people that my family would invite will not be at the shower and only my sister and brother’s families and my Mom and Dad will be at the wedding. Is it proper to invite people that may not ever see the bride? I also have this same questions for sending wedding invitations. Should we invite people that won’t be able to attend the ceremony?
January 3rd, 2007 at 3:34 pm
I am the sister of the groom, am one of the bridesmaids, and live nearby all three bridal showers — one thrown by the groom’s aunt, another by her bridesmaids (friends I do not know), and another thrown by the bride’s aunt. Do I have to attend all three??
December 8th, 2006 at 1:17 pm
My son married in a hurry because he joined the Army. Is it acceptable to give his wife a bridal shower after the marriage ceremony? They are planning a wedding reception in the summer.
October 1st, 2006 at 9:56 am
brides friends called groom’s mother & ask if she would like to help
insted of saying no, she asked what can she do for them and they asked her to “bring the cake” and a dish
I believe this is so wrong, the groom’s mother she be a guest if she is even invited, not be apart of dressing the bride
am I correct?
September 12th, 2006 at 2:14 pm
who should give the family bridal shower?
June 6th, 2006 at 11:06 pm
I am unable to make my very good friend’s wedding shower and I don’t know what to say to her.
Please advice.