The Basics of Bridal Shower Etiquette
by Melanie Doetsch
While showers have evolved into something more relaxed in recent years, you should still know the basics of bridal shower etiquette to avoid a chance of offending anyone.
Since there will probably be disparate groups at the shower — friends, family and co-workers, usually — it's important to understand how everyone should interact. Especially in the case of family: mothers and grandmothers can place great weight on proper bridal shower etiquette, so make sure you know "the rules"!
The Maid of Honor's usually the person who plans and organizes the bridal shower. If she lives out of town, however, it's fine for someone else to do the honors.
Don't take over without checking with her, though. It's her privilege, and you should always ask her before assuming anything. If you're going to do it for her, make sure you keep her comfortably involved through frequent emails and phone calls.
Bridal shower etiquette traditionally says that a shower should take place at least four to six weeks before the wedding. This is just for practical reasons — the bride's going to be too busy any closer to the ceremony — but if she's coming home only two weeks before the wedding, talk to her and see how she feels about having a shower in her honor so close to the wedding. Chances are, she'll think that's fine if most of her friends can manage to come.
There's been an uncomfortable trend in recent years for large showers, where nearly everyone the bride knows gets an invite. This isn't quite what the bridal shower is supposed to be, though. At least by tradition, a bridal shower's meant to be a small, intimate gathering of the bride's closest friends and family. Proper etiquette dictates a group of no more than ten to twenty guests.
Who the guest list should include: the wedding party, the mothers of the bride and groom, sisters of the bride and groom, and the bride's closest friends and/or coworkers. Contrary to some recent practices, it probably shouldn't include every woman invited to the wedding.
Finally, bridal shower etiquette means making a special point of including the wedding party members ... and the mothers. Ask each of these people to take on some particular responsibility, whether it's recording a list of the givers as the gifts are opened, or running the party games. This will help everyone feel like a key part of this special day.
I would like to give my daughter a bridal shower with our side of the family , daughters close friends, grooms mom, sister and grandma. Also inviting stepmother, stepgrandma and stepaunt. Should I feel that it is wrong not to invite all the other guest that I do not even know.
The groom found out about this and is upset. He feels that it should be everyone invited to one shower. I do not feel its up to me to ask the mother of the groom and stepmother If they would like to go in on the shower. Besides i cannot take care of the whole cost.
It is never a mother’s place to host a bridal shower for her own daughter.
Mothers do this all the time. I go to showers all the time that the mothers give the bridal shower.
Amen! As a mother of the bride, along with the bride’s sister who is the MOH, I feel it is quite proper to be the hostess of the shower, especially when the guests are being treated to a lovely luncheon which will cost me upwards of $400.00. It is a huge inconvenience for anyone else to host during these very busy times.
They should be delighted you are throwing a shower for her and it is never your responsibility to invite everyone, multiple showers are usually in order.
I have a niece that is planning a huge 2nd wedding with 12 brides maids and grooms men. She had lived with the fellow and have a house for the past 4 yrs. They also share a child together. Previously she had a shower and big wedding with the first marriage that she invited everyone to. Now she is asking for a Pampered Chef Formal shower that she has a gift list made for. Her Wedding registry includes items such as Television, Computers, video confrence items and $100 trash can. The shower is taking place at their family’s church that she uses for every event that the family holds, you would think it was their home the way they take it over. This family has never attended a shower for her cousins or given them a gift, thank you for any gifts that she has recieved in the past from us. Is this good ediquette? I don’t want to go but feel I can’t get out of it without bad feelings from her Mom.
I am planning also my second wedding, I am having a small simple wedding. I decided that a bridal shower was not what I want since I have pretty much everything that I need. I would love to be able to request no gifts at my wedding and my fiance feels the same… I think that if she needs such gifts maybe she can buy them of those who choosen to give her money… I feel that this is not good ediquette… What does other think?
Nancy,
It is not good etiquette to say what type of shower she wants. It is not required to purchase a gift from the registry. If you do choose that pick something within your budget. Since this is a new wedding she is allowed a different shower. I completely understand your dilemma. It is sometimes easier to go to a shower/wedding especially if it causes a rift between loved ones. I would go with my gut, if you feel strongly about not attending, then politely decline the shower but say can’t wait to see you at the big day! Keeping a lighthearted approach will ease feelings but let you off the hook.
I have 2 sister-in-laws who have had nothing to do with our family but now want to throw a bridal shower for my step-daughter. Her mother and I have already started planning a shower – the maid of honor is the brides sister who is still in college and has no money so we are doing the shower – how do i tell my sisters-in-law that have nothing normally to do with our family to butt out now?
Nancy,
I would suggest they have another shower. It is difficult to tell someone not to host a party/shower.
Thank them for wanting to help, and then say that the shower has already been taken care of, all arrangements have been made. Now don’t tick them off too much, because they could pony up a nice gift for the bride. If they still insisit on helping, there is always the clean up crew. Have a nice day.
My sisters will be hosting a bridal shower for my future daughter-in-law. The wedding will take place hours away from our home town, consequently, several of my close friends will not be invited to the wedding. Is it always considered in poor taste to invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding? Thank you.
Tammy,
Yes, I would have any guests on both guest lists. It is improper to do so unless it is a coworker shower. That is the exception.
A friend of mine is getting married and she just told the bridal party that her bridal shower list (put together by her mother) is between 90-95 people! She mentioned that her mother may help in the cost but it’s still looking to be a pretty expensive shower. The bride has also mentioned a possible desitination bachelorette party. Is there a polite way to let the bride know that the costs are getting out of hand? (I myself am in another wedding a month after hers and I know the other bridesmaids don’t have a lot of money). THANKS!
Jaime, Hi!
It is up to the hosts what type shower will be given and how much. The brides only duty in the shower is the guest list. The hosts should get together and finalize a budget and plan on that set budget, the bride cannot set the budget. I hope this helps!!
I am throwing a bridal shower for my close friends daughter. I had in mind a small 15-20 person intimate shower. The future Mother-in-law wants to invite 20+ people just from her side. The bride does not know what to do and does not want to insult anyone, but I am not prepared to pay for 40+ people, nor will that many people fit comforatbly in my home where I was planning on having the shower, what should I do?
Linda,
Actually the bride makes the guest list. So I would just have her make one up and give it to you. it should consist of people who she is close too.
I’m planning a bridal shower for my friend, who is getting married in the summer. I have a couple of questions:
1.) Do I need to match the color theme of the bridal shower to her wedding colors?
2.) There are 8 bridesmaids, but I’ll probably do most, if not all of the planning. I feel like it would be inappropriate to ask them to chip in for the price of the bridal shower, am I right? Also, should I try to include them?
Thanks so much!
Laura,
I would choose complimetary colors for the venue the shower is taking place. You can choose to use her colors but that is optional. Yes, I would ask them if they would like to be involved in the planning/host. It would give them an option of not having to plan one of their own if they were. ( combine forces so to speak), leaving the decision to them of course. Happy planning!!
I am the mother of the groom and would like to give a bridal shower for my son’s fiancee’. They live out-of-state and so does the bride’s family. Is this okay to do?
Mary
Mary Joyce,
Etiquette states family and mothers shouldn’t throw showers but I say anything goes nowdays! The rules of etiquette are slowly but surely changing wedding to wedding, becoming more and more personal ideas and bringing in “new” traditions that suit their lifestyle. In the South that is all I see is family throwing bridal showers. So go for it! Happy Planning!
I would like to host a shower for my nephews bride-to-be. I know that traditionaly only those who are on the guest list are invited to the shower. However, I would like to have a shower/pre-wedding party for her at our church with the church family and our local immediate family. Most of the church family will not receive an invitation to the wedding since it is taking place 5hrs away and is an after 6 wedding. (The majority of the church family are seniors.) During the past year the bride has attended our church at least twice a month. She is well liked by everyone and is part of our church family. I am expecting her to have at least three showers. One with her home friends and family, one at the university where she now attends (8hrs away) and one here with his family. Under the circumstances would it be ok to host a shower/pre-wedding party and include the church family eventhough they will not receive an invitation to the wedding>
Robin,
If the church ladies want to do this and don’t mind but if they “expect an invite” then I would reconsider.
My daughter-in-law to-be bridesmaids dresses are black with a lime green sash. As the mother of the groom, would it be proper if I wore a black dress too? I have no idea what color the brides mother is wearing.
Debbie,
usually the mothers don’t wear the same color as the bridal party. I would go with another neutral or color. Look into a beautiful shade of green even, as long as its a shade that flatters your skintone. A nice champagne or pewter would look pretty also.
I am the step mother in law to be and am hosting a small personal shower for my future step daughter in law. On the invites it has a space that says “Hosted by”. My question is what should I put? Should I put step mother in law to be with my name? Mother in law to be with my name? Or just my name? By the way, my step son’s mother lives out of state and really has no inter action with the bride to be-don’t even think she is coming to the wedding. I will be the involved “mother in law”. Thanks!
Kathy,
Just your name, it is not necessary to put your relationship title.
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Is it improper to address a bridal shower invitation to a guest using only their first name?
Mary,
It is proper to write: Mrs. Beth Smith instead of Beth Smith.
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Is it rude to put on the bridal shower invitation where the bride is registered at?
Stacy,
Not at all. It is very appropriate to put it on the bridal shower invites! It is the wedding invites that is inappropriate to mention gift registry info!
So, my sister is getting married in Oct and we’re starting to plan the shower which we plan to hold in June sometime (I know it’s early but it’s what worked best for everone). Anyway, my Mom was asking if it’s okay to hold a separate party for people that aren’t invited to the wedding due to space. These people are generally co-workers of my Mom who all of us girls have known for years and friends from the barn that my sister rides at. She friends with all of these people but no close enough with to exclude other friends or family from the limited wedding invite list.
So is it okay to do something informal like this so that they can celebrate my sister’s marriage with her?
Rachel,
Coworkers are the exception to the rule. If the friends at the barn are more like coworkers then yes it will be fine, otherwise they need to be on the guest list.
Thanks Stacey. I’ll pass the word on to my Mom. I also told her about Curious Mom’s idea of a post reception and she seemed to really like that idea. It seems like a nice way to get all of these people together without really offending them. :)
My fiance and I initially put a deposit down to have our wedding at a golf course unfortunately, we changed our mind about the place. My dilemma is this, I know that traditionally, the MOH throws the bridal shower for the bride but would it be inappropriate if we use the money towards my bridal shower instead? The deposit is more than enough to cover the whole party.
Rochelle,
Actually it can be inappropriate. A bride should never throw her own bridal shower, due to bridal showers being optional for someone to throw. It will appear the bride is the host if she pays for it. You could put it elsewhere in your wedding budget or you could stash it away for your honeymoon or pay off debts, savings, or something for your home. It is the moh or other hosts responsibility to pay for the shower as it is like a gift in itself to honor the bride.
One option if you still want to have a party is be a host of a bridal party luncheon or a coed bbq to relax with everyone before the big day. Or splurge and give the bm manis and pedis, or help them with the cost of their dresses or attire. I think it is a thoughful idea but unfortunately inappropriate.
If you still decide to go against the grain and pay for your shower,AFTER, you find out someone is throwing you one then do so discreetly. It would be highly improper to suggest someone throw you a shower.
Hope this helps!!!!
I am the Maid of Honor and am planning a bridal shower for the bride. In bridal shower ediquette is it appropriate for the mother of the groom to plan a bridal shower on a date prior to my bridal shower date? Also is it appropriate for both of us to invite the wedding party? May I add that we both live in the same city. Any help anyone can give would be greatly appreciated
trista,
Proper etiquette states that mothers/family members are not supposed to throw a shower for the bride. Nowdays, anything goes. The wedding party is always included on the bridal shower list.If the bridal party has chipped in with the bridal party or given a gift themselves then no other gifts are required. The bridal party may choose not to go to every shower which is optional. So I would just shrug it off and proceed in my plans for a great shower for the bride to be. Multiple showers are becoming the norm now. It may be exhausting back to back showers but the date/planning is left up to the hosts. The bride is so lucky to have people who want to share in such a great time in her life and honor her with celebrations.
Little over a year ago my sister was engaged we threw a shower for her of course. Three days before the wedding she calls it off, we were very happy to say the least, but that is another story. Now she is engaged again to this great guy. We need to throw another shower because the grooms side obviously wants to have one. The problem is the brides side already gave gifts last time, my sister also did not keep her list of who gave what, so my original idea is out. What do I do? I don’t want the brides side to feel obligated to give again, but it will be kind of weird at the party when only the grooms side has gifts. Could lead to a boring party. Help please!! Thanks in advance.
Jessica,
Noone that gave a gift is required to do so again. However, if theywanted to get a small gift then that is optional. Usually when the grooms side gives a shower it is their side of the family so unless they are combining both sides then you are all off the hook. I wouldn’t sweat it and just tell everyone gift giving is totally optional. One suggestion could be having a more nontraditional shower since she got a lot of that stuff before?!? a honeymoon theme shower ( google search this for great ideas). How fun would that be!
Thank you Stacey!! I’m in the same boat as Jessica (though I’m the bride to be, not my sister). I was thinking of hosting my own “shower” with my bridal party’s help as just a “Thankyou for your support to both of us over the years” kind of thing. Gifts were going to optional and we would still register because I know that some of my closest friends and family would want to give us something. But we’re both established now and don’t really need anything.
Your comment is a huge help because now I know that my idea is the right one and that it’s okay to do. Thank you!!
Jessica: Good luck with your sister’s wedding. :)
Hi I am hostessing my friends bridal shower(i am not the maid of honor, she is out of town). We are going to have a tea party at a beautiful restaurant. What is the etiquette on paying for the party? I have a price per head. If i am to expect everyone to pay for there own should i include the price in the invitations? I also have to put a 20% deposit.
thanks for your help…
Shyann,
The hosts planning the party is also responsible for the entire costs including food. It is considered improper etiquette to invite a guests to a party and ask them to pay for their meal.
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I come from two very large families and also have my step-father’s family and my dad’s girlfriend and her mother. My MOH (my aunt, moms sister) and I came up with a list that included all immediate women of the 3 sides, a few 2nd cousins ( who are closer to me than than the 1st cousins), my fiancee’s family and a couple work friends. The Final number totalled 105!
I have counted each side and the largest is from my moms side totalling 44women.
That being said my MOH suggested 2 seperate shower however:
1) since the largest number is my moms side and all the work friends and my step-fathers side would be more comfortable at a party with them than my dad’s side (who they’ve never met) dividing it seems pointless.
2)I am not particularly close with my dad’s immediate family, I do not anticipate them to volunteer to throw me a shower and would feel very odd asking them throw one.
Ever since my parents divorce I’ve had two seperate parties (b-days, first communion, graduation, etc.) Im not sure if this situation still applies to that 2-party way of life I’ve had.
My MOH (aunt) said we would just throw one at her house but that is ALOT of women, I am just so very confused on how to handle everything!!
So I guess any and all advice in this situation will be helpful!
Jennifer,
As the bride to be your only suppose to comeup with a guest list. SInce there are alot of guests, the hosts could find a banquet hall big enough but reasonable enough to hold the shower. I would have nothing more than cake and punch due to the number of guests. It would keep it simple and perfectly appropriate. I would have someone put some feelers out to see if a second bridal shower is in the works. Due to the situation the hosts could better prepare for your shower. A shower is an optional party but it would make it simpler if there were two.
In response to the other comment, if I had a bridal shower with only cake and punch my family would have a fit. They would consider me cheap and get mad, because they would bring a good gift and only get cake and punch.
There is no reason why your immediate family could not pitch in and bring a dish. Even if you had to have lunch meat and someone make macaroni salad, it would be better then just cake and punch. I had a lunch meat tray at the shower I gave my daughter, but I made a huge rigatoni and meatballs with noodle casserole that fed an army.
You know that everyone will not show up. Consider looking at your metro parks. They may have wonderful indoor pavilions that look like you spent a mint on, but in reality they are cheaper then renting tables and chairs and you don’t have to worry if it rains, because it’s indoors. These pavilions fill up fast, so you have to act quick.
I would invite everyone and whoever comes, comes.
When I had my daughter’s shower, I went to garage sales and bought things cheap for prizes that were new in boxes for a quarter and a dime and everyone was shocked at how beautiful everything came out. I found a group of little shades for 10 cents and made 12 little lamps as centerpieces. I had flowers from a craft sale and bought little lights from garage sales that lit up with batteries for 25 cents. See picture if it came out.
Look on Craigslist and eBay and you may find an auction that has a huge lot from leftovers from a wedding that they are selling dirt cheap. Your garage and estate sales are the best bet.
I am the one who had the Victorian Bridal shower for my daughter and I bought tea cups for each guest as a party favor, but these were only pennies. The shower looked so elegant and everyone remarked it was the best party they had ever been to.
Good Luck
I was previously engaged but we called it off before the wedding. At that shower, my family did a pot luck and it was great. It was help in a church hall, so it was inexpensive to rent and they already had chairs and tables so my family didn’t need to rent that.
My shower invites went out with recipe cards for everyone to fill in and bring with them. Maybe ask people to make their favorite dish and bring the recipe on a card for the bride to be. That way everyone can sample the dish and you’re more likely to get a variety and not just mac and cheese and brownies. :)
If cost is a concern, talk to your closest family members and see if they’d be willing to pitch in a little to help out. That way it isn’t all on the bridal party to pay for.
Good luck!!!
A friend of mine is gettiong married within 6 months of her sister so they are planning a dual wedding shower so that the families and friends dont have to travel for 2 seperate parties since they live in other parts of the country. How do they write thier invitations so that there guests understand that gifts are not required for each sister if they do not know the other.
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For our daughter’s wedding, we are having a small country wedding of about 180 people (with our contacts we could have 500!) two hours away from the expensive city where we live. For about 75 additional friends who we will not be able to fit into the tiny country church and wedding venue, we would like to host a post wedding reception in our home right after the honeymoon (hor d’oevres, cake and champagne). This might have the effect of being a co-ed shower, but we would not call it that. We are thinking we could position it this way: “In consideration for our friends for whom an out-of-town wedding might be difficult, we would love for you to celebrate the marriage of (bride and groom) at a post wedding reception at the home of (bride’s parents). Hor d’oevres, cake and champagne…time, location, etc.” Would this be appropriate? Should we include the registry information in that invitation? Or just wait for folks to inquire about gifts when they RSVPd?
curious mother, love the idea; very thoughtful!
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Our son got married in a civil ceremony last year,and they are planning a formal religious ceremony in June. A friend wants to give them a shower next month. Can it still be called a “bridal” shower or should it be called something else?
John,
Yes it can be called a bridal shower. I hope you all have a wonderful time!
I am getting married in 2 months and my family really wants me to have a bridal shower, but my fiance sister say i shouldnt because we have been living together for 7 years. So my question is can i still have one even though we have been living togther for 7 years or is it wrong?
You can have what ever you want. You are the bride not her. You can make it a party without gifts if you want or have gifts for the honeymoon. Its always nice to have a theme party.
Mel,
You can have a shower. Amanda is right. A wonderful theme shower like a honeymoon shower would be great!
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If your going to the tropics for a honeymoon, it would be alot of fun if the host threw a tropical themed shower. how fun!
My fiance and I are getting married in Maui in April. Just the two of us will be there, and we are not planning on having a reception when we return. My Mom would like to have a Bridal Shower for me. Is this appropriate or not, since there will not be anybody there when we get married.
Kae,
alot of folks are on the fence on this one. some choose to have a shower and some dont. etiquette states those at the shower should also have a wedding invite. if there was a reception after then i would say yes but in this case i think i would opt out of the shower. it might offend.
I am hosting a small, family-type shower for my niece. I have invited my sister (mother of the bride) and the groom’s mother as “tradition” dictates. Do I need to invite (would it be impolite NOT TO INVITE) the groom’s grandmother to the shower? The grandmother lives locally, is physically infiirm and in all probability would not be able to attend.
Sami,
Even though she most likely wont attend. It would still be nice to invite her, it lets her know she was thought about. A even more wonderful way of doing so, with a loved one in poor health, is to visit with the invite. I am sure it would make her smile not only for the invitation and thoughtfulness BUT the visit.
Hi, I’m going to be getting married in about 5 months. Myself and my fiance have each lived in our own homes for several years, and we won’t be registering anywhere. We feel as if we already have all the household stuff we need. We are hoping that if anyone wants to give a gift at our reception, they give cash. When anyone asks where we are registered, we let them know then. My question is, what should I do about my bridal shower? My wonderful friend is planning a shower and I certainly won’t be asking for $$ at the shower, I think that would be out of line. Should I create a little registry (even if I don’t really want to) to make my guests and the hostess more comfortable? Or should I request “no gifts, please” on the shower invites? Thanks for any words of wisdom you can provide!
jfab,
It really depends on what you decide to do. You could create a honeymoon registry or a cash registry.
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I have a question about gift cards. I’m throwing a bridal shower for my GodDaughter and she is wanting JUST gift cards as gifts. I don’t feel this is appropriate to put on the shower invite? What do you all think? Thanks!
My daughter is asking for the same thing but she lives in BC and I (who is giving the shower) live in NB so it makes alot of sense because of the distance she has to travel and it would be hard for her to get gifts back there.My daughter also registered at a great store for her shower and alot of people are getting her different kinds of gift cards.
Gift cards are a great thing because then you are getting what the bride(or groom) asked for and not getting something that they dont want..I am sure family and friends would understand if you told them that
I am totally in agreement with you and I too felt embarrassed about placing gift cards in my daughter’s shower when I had it in October. I always felt and always will that a shower is… “thank you for helping me get started in life,” (and appreciating everything that is given to the couple to help them get started) rather then… “this is what I want.” I strongly feel that those who specify what they want is leaning more toward a spoiled brat type of attitude, so what I placed in my shower cards was.. “If you are still uncertain as to what to get the bride, the bride would appreciate gift cards to Home Depot since she has recently purchased a home”… (see story above) if I would have known a snow blower would have been purchased before they had silverware and towels and bedding, I would have thought twice about placing that in there. I am beginning to love my son-in-law, but I’m still not happy with their decision, since many of the people who came to the shower did not even have a snow blower. Their driveway is only about 30 feet long and a shovel would have been sufficient for starting out in life. Apparently I was not the only one who thought that, because the groom’s parents did not give them cash for their wedding, she gave them gift cards to Bed Bath and Beyond…hmmm
I do not offer my opinions on anything in their life, so I don’t run their lives, but I was embarrassed when my family started calling me saying that they received thank you cards stating that they purchased a snow blower with the gift cards. My daughter read that it was proper etiquette to place what they purchased with the gift cards that the guests gave, so she placed that clause in. I think she didn’t understand the full effects others may have had when she placed “snowblower” in the thank you cards. Snowblower just isn’t “shower material.” Others may disagree with me, but I was just not brought up that way. I was brought up to appreciate whatever was given to me. My daughter did appreciate what was given to her at the shower and I’m sure my son-in-law did as well. Yes, they could buy what they want and could have used the cards as they pleased, it’s just that placing “snowblower” in the thank you cards was not a good idea. I guess this day and age is different. :shrug:
I just received notice that my future son-in-laws’s sister is throwing a bridal shower for my daughter. They live in another state where all of his family and friends are. Here are three questions:
I thought that the MOH (the bride’s sister) was supposed to host the shower?
Since most of the bride’s family lives in another state and probably won’t be able to attend..should the MOH host another shower?
The bride and groom already have a home and have lived together for a number of years. What in the world do we buy as gifts?
Help?
marie,
yes i would have another shower. this will be the grooms family bridal shower which is pretty common to have two. sometimes it makes it easier on families who live in different locations. the moh usually throws the shower but today it can be just the bridal party, friends, family, or several hosts coming together. the sky is the limit for hosting! i usually advise a honeymoon shower for the couple. it is a wonderful theme and it gives gifts toward the honeymoon from massages to luggage, odds and ends.
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I am wondering what the proper bridal shower Etiquette in regards to inviting people to the shower but not to the wedding?
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I too am wondering about that. With such large families on both sides and limitations on the reception site, many of my friends (mother of groom) won’t be invited to the wedding. I would love to invite them to an “open house” shower so they can meet my son’s fiance. Does anyone know if this is appropriate?
(I am probably going to do it anyway, but will let people know ahead of time about my not being able to include them on the wedding guest list.)
Is a wedding shower supposed to be a surprise?
Also, I want to do a couple showers for my cousin but my sister says thats weird. They already live together and have a child together. Its their wedding not just hers. Am I wrong to include him and male members of our families?
kim,
surprise bridal showers are fun. youwould have to get the guest list from someone other than the bride. coed showers are even better! it is a great party! just make it a simple bbq or outdoor luau. i especially love the honeymoon shower for this. ( also when the couple who has lived together).
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Thanks Stacey, this is very helpful!
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