Can My Mother Be My Maid of Honor?
This is a fairly easy question to answer. There’s only one rule when it come to picking the person who will stand next to you on your big day — ready for it?
The Rule: Your Maid (or Matron of Honor) should be someone who you are close to, someone you trust, and someone you know you will be able to turn to for support in the future as well.
So, that said, there are no rules saying that can’t be someone related to you. In many weddings, the bridal party includes siblings, so why not parents? I can’t say I’ve ever been to a wedding were the mother was in the wedding party, but I have been to two recently where the father served as Best Man. I think having your mother as your maid (matron) of honor is an amazing and wonderful idea that will be a cherished, lasting memory for both of you!
One suggestion I’d have, though, is to arrange for your mother to wear a different color or style then the rest of the bridesmaids (if you have more). This will help separate your mother from the other bridesmaids, so that she maintains a place of extra honor: after all — she’s more then just a Maid of Honor!
The Expert
Crystal Unrau is an experienced wedding planner who specializes in ettiquette, wedding decor, wedding fashion, wedding planning and most importantly, dream weddings on a budget. She is the owner of Chrys Cross Bridal - offering affordable bridal collections for the Princess on a Budget. She is also the chief designer for on of Canada’s newest Haute Couture collections, Nadine Sheree Haute Couture!
July 3rd, 2008 at 6:14 am
can the grooms mother be maid of honour
June 16th, 2008 at 7:19 pm
I recently got engaged and started talking about wedding ideas. I never thought of having my aunt (who im very close to) as a matron of honor.. I always thought it “HAD” to be a friend so I told my friend I wanted her to be my matron of honor. Well, now I really would like my aunt to be my matron of honor because she is part of my family and really is my best friend..through it all..What do I do?
February 6th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
Hi, I wouold like a very good friend of mine to be my maid of honor/bridesmaid. She is seven months pregnant. She’ll probably have to sit down if too much for her to stand the entire ceremony. Is it ok?
November 25th, 2007 at 10:40 am
My queston is, that my sister has asked a friend of hers at work to be the maid of honor. I am really upset because we are very close. This person is only 27 years old and my sister is 52 and this is her 5th marrage. My sister wants me to do her hair and make the cake. I know why she want this person to be the maid of honor, so my sister will get a wedding shower out of her. I love my sister and when she told me who she asked, she asked me if I was mad and I told her I was. I told her she should have asked her daughter first than me or my younger sister. Her boyfriend and soon to be mother-in-law sid she was wrong to ask the girl and should have been me. How do I handle this? I heard her say that now she is going to have to tell her friend and she said it will probably hurt the girl. What do I do?? Please help.
September 11th, 2007 at 8:26 pm
My aunt is my maid of honor for my Sept. 08′ wedding. I have girlfriends that are standing up. But I chose my aunt because no matter what was going on in my life, she gave me unedited advice, unconditional love, and always respect. Not sure why you would feel funny about it. A maid of honor holds a special meaning a meaning that she obviously already holds in your life. It would only be the appropriate thing to do without question.
August 8th, 2007 at 11:56 am
why not! it’s your wedding, you can do whatever you want. The wedding police are not going to show up and stop the wedding after all.
March 23rd, 2007 at 2:09 pm
can an unmarried sister of the bride be a maid of honor
April 8th, 2006 at 10:15 am
Hi I was wondering, my aunt is really my best friend but I do not want to make her my maid of honor because I feel funny about it. But she is making my wedding dress and helping me plan the wedding. So in all right, she should be. I do not have any girlfriends that I can rely on to help me plan it. I have always turned to her for help emotionally and she has made my prom dress and my sophmore homecoming dress. Would that be appropiate to ask her? what do you think?