The Order of Events at Your Wedding Reception
Typically, a wedding reception follows a standard format— one that includes plenty of stages to keep track of.
Here are the common elements you'll typically find at a wedding, with a brief description of each.
- Guests Arrive at the Reception Site
- Introducing the Wedding Party
- Introducing the Bride and Groom
- Giving the Blessing
- Forks at the Ready!
- Cutting the Cake
- Toasting the Happy Couple
- Bride & Groom's First Dance
- Father & Daughter's Dance
- Mother & Groom's Dance
- Special Dances
- Bouquet and Garter Toss
- Dancing and Fun
Some guests arrive early at the reception. So be sure all reception to-dos are complete by the time your wedding's scheduled to start. Also, all wedding vendors should be suited up in proper attire for early and lingering guests. All tables should be set up, including the cake table, the entertainment's table, the sign-in table, food tables, and tables with chairs for all guests. If you have a seating arrangement, all seating lists should be at the reception with everyone's name indicating where they sit.
This step isn't mandatory, but it's nice for everyone to know who the wedding party — many guests haven't met them before your wedding. Create a "Reception Planning Guide," and give this to your emcee before the wedding. Among other things, this guide should detail your party by the order they enter the reception site, and give their names and titles. The order of entrance is: parents of the bride, parents of the groom, ushers with bridesmaids, flower girl and ring bearer, special guests, best man, maid/matron of honor, bride and groom. In addition, go over how to pronounce the wedding party's names with the emcee.
This is always the last of the introductions. Everyone should stand before the bride and groom enter. In addition, you can arrange a special song with the musical entertainment and a special announcement with the emcee to punctuate a truly grand entrance. Also, inform the emcee how you'd like to be introduced: Mr. and Mrs. Smith? John and Jane Doe?
This is another step that's not mandatory — but for the religious couple, it makes a nice setting. If you invite the minister to the reception, ask them to conduct the blessing. But if they're not able to attend, a parent or family friend is a good idea. Alternately, the emcee could bless the meal. Be sure to communicate with whoever's giving the blessing well in advance, so they're prepared to give it a personal touch.
It's time to eat! And no matter how many people are clamoring to wish you well, the bride and groom should stop, rest and partake. This may be your only chance in the day that can all-too-easily become one big blur. Plus, it's customary for the bride and groom to start the food line, which most guests are aware of — so don't be late!
Of course, the bride and groom traditionally cut the first slice on their wedding cake. Then, the bride feeds half of the piece of cake to the groom, and the groom feeds the remainder to the bride. The ceremonial cutting is meant to symbolize the couple's caring and sharing for one another. Don't be afraid to use forks for this step, since they look great in pictures. They almost minimize the possibility of smearing cake all over the wedding regalia.
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In the first stage of toasting, the bride and groom toast each other, then interlock arms and drink. Immediately following, the best man and maid/matron of honor make toasts to the bridal couple. Be prepared for other family and friends to follow, too.
The Bride & Groom's Dance is the first dance between a bride and groom as a married couple. Where you choose to place this in the schedule depends on your preferences. One common option: immediately following the grand entrance, with the wedding party circling the dance.
The Father & Daughter's Dance or the Father Bride Dance is the dance between the father(s) of the bride and the bride. Brides, if you have more than one father in your life, one can tap the other on the shoulder in the middle of the dance so you can dance with both of them. If you don't have a father, a common substitute is a father figure. Even your brother would make a very nice gesture.
The Mother & Groom's dance is the dance between the mother(s) of the groom and the groom. Grooms, if you have more than one mother in your life, one can tap the other on the shoulder in the middle of the dance so you can dance with both. If you don't have a mother, a common substitute is a mother figure, or your sister.
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Like many people, you might have some songs that are near and dear to your heart. You can ask the entertainment to play them immediately after the formal dances. Example: If someone close to you passed recently, you could ask the entertainment to play "Angels Among Us" by Alabama.
In the traditional tossing of the bouquet, the bride tosses her bouquet (or a substitute) to all the single women in attendance. Immediately after the tossing, a chair is set in the middle of the dance floor, for the bride to sit on while the groom removes the garter from her leg, and tosses it to all the single men in attendance. The man and woman who catches the garter and bouquet are said to be the next to marry.
This is what you pay the music entertainment to do — get people out of their chairs and on to the dance floor. Give the entertainment your favorite songs and some absolute no-gos, but don't try to conscript them to a list of 100 songs you picked out in advance.
Ok, im confused!! After we all are annouced, is is best to start eating 1st or to do the dances and toasts?? Also after we eat do we do the cake cutting right after or can we dance awhile then do???
Tera, here is a guideline that helps!!
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My best friend is getting married but she isn’t one for wanting to be on display. We are trying to figure out alternatives for the first dances. and she doesn’t really want to be traditional when it comes to the wedding party dancing together either. Any ideas?
jessie, the wedding party dancing together, they will informally but i haven’t been to a wedding where they did formally. this is easy to omit. and i have also been to a bigger wedding where the bride and groom didnt dance a first dance, the dj didnt announce a first dance and noone even paid attention if it was missing. the dj just started with a mix of tunes in the beginning and as the party got started the bigger dance tunes hit. it was so great!! so it wont be missed, i assure you!!
and the other alternative is for the dj to say in lieu of a first dance the bride and groom request the floor be shared by all their guests. although this could or could not work, what if you still danced alone. talk to your dj, unless your plugging in your own music, about these issues. he or she may have some great ideas from previous weddings. personally, i would skip it altogether, no announcement of a 1st dance. go straight from being announced as mr. and mrs. ( i would keep this unless your having an informal affair, and go straight into the cake cutting, which needs to be sooner than later because some guests might leave and never see it) great advice below for you by other couples with same ideas!!)
* Gardenweb forums: “Not into all attention in First dance??”
* no first dance song-or announcements??
I’ve been to one where they did a line dance, and everyone was invited up to dance. That was kinda cool. Only you gotta have a line dancing family for it. Otherwise, she could always pick out the song she wants her first dance to be to, but rather than it be dedicated to only them, perhaps do a dance with her and her husband, his set(s) of parents, her set(s) of parents, and the wedding party with their boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance/spouse. Or…dedicated it to “all those happy couples” so everyone can come up and dance. This way she’s not in the spot light.
Angie what if you were to dance with his father and him with your mother if that is possible? If this isn’t possible maybe a favorite uncle/aunt. You could place chairs with flowers on it at the edge of the dance floor so your loved ones are “joining” you in the dance.
Anyone have any request for alternatives dances. My father passed 2 years ago and my fiance’s mother just passed in April. I need a few fresh ideas for things to do in remembrence.Thanks
I think somewhere you should have a picture of you and your husband, and on either side your father and his mother, and both of you write something about your respective parent with it. And have that lead into pictures of the two of you growing up.
Lately I’ve been to weddings where the wedding cake is cut before the dinner begins (just after the bride and groom arrive) This gives the kitchen time to cut the cake and serve it just after everyone has had dinner and before people start to leave. It seemed to work out very well and there was no left over cake.
Of course you can. You guys already know whaty one another wants. If the theme is “A family affair”Then build your wedding around that and have special tributes to what your family represents.
The theme of our wedding is “It’s a family affair” I am struggling with what type of favors we should give our guests. I want our gifts to them to represent our theme. What is the most popular wedding favor to give and is there a way to purchase wedding favors in bulk if you are having a large wedding? Please help!
You can give specially wrapped candy bars. You measure the candy bar length and width and then design it on your computer. You can even add a picture of the bride and groom. You can do bite size candy bars, the medium size, the regular size or xlarge size. It’s fun to do and you can make it as personal as you want. Everybody loves chocolate.
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Sherry
My husband and I are renewing our vows, having our dream wedding and reception after 5 yrs of marriage and I want to know if there is a special order of wedding ceremony and reception we should go by? Can we have our wedding and reception the way we want?