Giving a Maid of Honor Speech? Simple Tips You Can Use Right Now!
One of the maid of honor's most important duties — if not the most important — is to offer a speech at the reception.
This speech is a big part of the wedding, and usually takes place within the reception' s first half, before people leave. You'll no doubt have a full crowd for your speech ... so you'll want to be prepared!
While the best man's speech is equally important, he'll focus more on the groom. So it's your job to delight the bride, and give her something to remember with your speech. Sound like a tall order? There are a few tips to keep in mind when giving your maid of honor speech that practically guarantee it'll be a success — and I'm going to share them with you.
Leave Them Laughing
The best speeches are usually the funny ones ... the kind where everyone in the crowd is laughing, not just the bride. A great way to start out your speech is to tell a story or two about growing up together, and the amusing things that happened to you.
When it comes to this speech, a lot of maids like to wing it — not write anything down, and hope for the best. I think they often hope this will create a natural, spontaneous effect, but I'm not always sure that's the result. At any rate, on such a big day, it makes sense to put in the extra effort and write down a few prepared remarks.
We all know that most of us don't like to speak in front of other people. We tend to get nervous when we know we have to make a speech, and we procrastinate a little. Having a few prepared notes makes life a lot easier on that front as well.
What to Cover
This is a popular way to start a speech — it lets the audience know who you are and how you know the bride. And in my opinion, it sets the right tone for the rest of it. After that, start talking about what the bride used to tell you about the groom when they first started dating — it's easy to make a funny story out of that.
Then, if you want to get into something more substantial, start talking about how terrific the bride and groom look together. Add a spiritual comment or a meaningful piece of writing that you dedicate to the bride and groom. And of course, don't forget to give them a dash of marital advice and wish them well on their journey.
Hello. I was asked to be my twin sister’s MOH and she is having a very quick wedding, but asked me to do a speech. I am not very good with speeches that’s for sure! We are very close sisters and the best of friends, however, I am not very fond of the guy she’s marrying. Please help.
Hey I was wondering if y’all could help me. I am my best friends maid of honor and she told me the other day that she wants me to give a speech at her wedding. I have never given a speech of any kind and I have never been to a wedding where a speech was given. I have no idea what to say. I don’t want it to sound corny and I don’t want to embarrass the bride. Also she said that she is going to pass the mike around the room and shes inviting like 600 people so it probably shouldn’t be too long of a speech. Thanks for any ideas.
sarah,
i have posted some of the better links i have found along the way below. i would suggest a wedding toast. it is short, simple, and sweet. it will be everything to the the bride and yet not to long.
sarah,
*example results
*more examples
Dont 4get to check the previous posts!!
I am the maid of honor to a very dear friend that i have had since we are babies, this weekend. That doesn’t sound weird at all, right? Well she is actually marrying my first cousin…one that i did not get to know very well AT ALL until they started dating!
I did not set them up, however, because they were together, He and i became a lot closer!
Any suggestions so that i can include both of them? But still focus more on the bride?
Lindsey,
introduce yourself first, and then talk about how long you have known each other, some wonderful times you both shared, how you have been there with each other through everything. and now you were honored by standing by her side on this very special day. how you have always considered her to be family to you and now she has found a lifelong partner with your cousin( grooms name), she actually IS family now. say, ( brides name), you know we had a couple shopping trips, lunches, etc. but just wait, there is thanksgiving, christmas, birthdays, etc. its gonna be sooo much fun!! (laugh). ( say grooms name) we have been friends ( the bride and you) since we were babies and it has been a complete joy to be a part of those journeys she took. now those journeys are yours and savor each moment as you walk today, tomorrow and, forever. i love you both……cheers.
lindsey, this is just a little something i came up with. for more tips look at some of the better links i found with the posts below. good luck!
Hi, my mothers wedding is in two days, this saturday & i’m the maid of honor. i’ve been thinking about the speech here & there but i haven’t really made a commitment to figure one out. i’ve never been one to do public speaking, i never liked speeches in school lol. but i want to make it as good as possible. seeing how i don’t have any money at this time to give them a gift..
i wanted to make it a little funny ya know, but i’m not quite sure what to even talk about..i don’t really know stories about them..i guess i’ve never really been that “in tune” to their relationship. i kindof know how they met but i’m not sure i want to mention that, i don’t really know how to, and make it funny or sound good.
they look good together & i know theyr in love & i’m very happy for them & my mom. its time she get to be happy.
but idk, i’m not sure how to word it all & whatnot! i’m not too great at the whole writing thing..lol.
please help me out!
thanks(:
Kristina,
I would talk about how she raised you as a single mother, maybe a funny or sentimental story and the things that u wanted for ur mother to find in a man that she has found in her soon t be husband…. sounds like one is happiness…. goo luck
Stacey,
You give good advice and help everyone tremendously. And I’m coming to you for help. Its a very complicated situation. I just recently got engaged after 12 yr relationship with him. He has children and I have children. 7 total.. 3 boys and 4 girls. All the girls want to give a speach. and needs help with it.
My daughter is 14 yrs old.
His 15 yr old daughter been with us for 4 yrs, off and on before that.
His 13 yr old daughter been with us for 3 yrs now, and off and on before that.
Just last yr he found his 11 yr old daughter who has been coming up for visitations, she also want to give a speach.
I have no Idea how to help them write one speach and split it among the four girls. Please help in any way possible. Would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much in adanced for any help given.
Candy
candy,
hi!! thank you!! its gonna be difficult to have one speech. what i would do is let them pick out a reading that is special to them or poem. i googled wedding readings for children then wedding or marriage poems. also they could write a small bit about what they want and make it personal then read it. it would be so heartfelt coming from them then writing it for them. there is inspiration everywhere. another thing i googled was children’s wedding vows where they are up there with you and included in the i do’s. its really a beautiful ideal!!
like here:
*wedding vows
(they might actually love this)
i would talk with them about what they might wanna do and then go from there.
Stacey,
Wow, Im lost for words, except I’m so glad I found this site, and found YOU! I knew I had asked the right person. I love the idea, and I know they will love it to. This wedding is something all the kids wanted. and you truely just made it even better. Again and I am sure this comes from everyone you have given advice to and helped. thanks so much!!!
candy,
i am so happy i could help with such a special day. i am sure it will be very beautiful and i wish you all a blessed and wonderful new journey. i have to admit i got choked up when i read you comment, it touched my heart. i cant say enough how it makes to feel to be able to help brides with their ideas or dilemmas. congratulations and i do wish you all the best!!
Next two my cus is gettin married and she wants me to say a wonderful speech for her but… i dont even know how to start. I even dont think anything funny happen to her so what do i talk about ??
can you help me PLEASE!!!!!!!!
andrea,
i would be natural. if there is nothing humorous that you know of, then i wouldnt include something funny. i would just be hearfelt and special. i have some of the better links in the below posts. i would say who i am that you are cousin and moh? to the bride, tell the couple how wonderful they look. then i would talk about how special your cousin is to you and when you knew she had found the perfect person that would make her so happy. dont mention anything bad or any exes. just talk about wonderful things. this should come from you, not cause someone thinks you should write a speech which is totally optional. it should be cause you care about her and want to express it in front of everybody. or you could do a simple but heartfelt toast. i hope this helps.
Ok, i am Tessa im 16 & also the MOH at my mother’s wedding this summer. i have no clue on what to say in the toast that i am suppose to make. i am also very nervous and i hate talking infront of a lot of people! Me and my mother are very close and tell each other just about everything. Me and the groom are also close. But of course i don’t know what to say and haven’t really had a chance to actually know how they are together as a couple. She is my mother and i want her to remember my toast forever so i want it to be the best, Any advice?!?
tessa,
here are some samples to get you started, also scroll down to some of the links i posted for others. they are some of the better links. you can have a funny ( not embarrassing) moment you two shared. or you can choose to keep it short and sweet like a toast.
*sample speeches
*Samples of Wedding Toasts
Okay, so I am almost 15 years old and I am my sisters MOH. I have to give a speech at her wedding and I don’t really know what to say! Also, I am sooooo nervous to get in front of all the people at her wedding!! Me and my sister grew up together and shared the same room. We are really close and have alot of memories. Her soon to be husband and I are somewhat close as well. Him and my sister both went to the same high school. When I knew they first started talking he was in Iraq and they talked over IM. Every time I would go to my dads I would always ask my sister if I could talk to him. lol. Now they live about 20 minutes from me and I go stay at their house sometimes. I don’t know alot about them as a couple and I need HELP! Any advice?
mariah, a speech is optional. you can also do a toast. what you stated above is a great subject to talk about. you could start with this for example…Hi, My name is Mariah, sister and maid of honor to the bride. I am so happy that she asked me to stand by her side today….. insert some of the things from the link below.
*sample speeches
*speech
if you have a sense of humor you could add something funny, dont try to force it though. go with whatever your personalities are.
another example,
hi everyone, my name is Mariah, i am maid of honor and sister to the bride. sis, I know you both will be happy together cause you have found someone who adores, loves, and respects you as much as i do. As your sister, I will always be there no matter what, even if we are not living in the same house anymore (oh yeah , by the way, I will be at yours (say this in a sly funny way). i wish you both all the happiness in the world and ( insert grooms name) welcome to the family! love you and congratulations!
To my dearest sister (insert sister’s name here), I am truly happy that you have found someone who loves, respects and adores you for the truly wonderful person that you are. As your sister, remember that I will always be here for you no matter what even if we’re not living in the same house anymore. May your union last a lifetime and be blessed by God. And to (groom’s name), welcome to the family. Congratulations!
mariah,
i meant to say, i modified the very bottom example, you can give a speech as short as this. for nerves, i highly recommend the toast instead of a longer speech. you can see how i took a sample( you can take any sample) and make it your own.
Mariah,
I’m 15 and my sister’s maid of honor this summer too. I started working on my speech today. Just start writing and crossing things out. Just write down everything that pops in your head. I’m focusing on making mine personal. Good Luck!
I need some advice..I am my sister maid of honor and i have to give a speech at her wedding i never knew about!! The only thing i know about them is they meet at collage during like halloween. I HATE TALKING IN FRONT OF PEOPLE…no lie i get really nervous
If any1 can help i would appreciate it. THANK YOU
OMG i am in the same boat i love attention and limelight but NOT speeches. i also like toi make people laugh though…so im playing off that. Find somthing you are somfortable doing and try to work it into your speech it will be more comfortable and easier to relax.
Hi! I know this is cutting it close but I am the MOH for my husbnads cousin. I have only known her for a little over 3 years but we aren’t that close at all. I was actually surprised when she asked me to be her MOH. Don’t get me wrong, I am very honored but I am having such a hard time coming up with a nice toast. Plus, she is been a bit unbearable. She makes it seem like I have not helped her at all and has been completely ungrateful. This is a new side of her fo me and it’s hard to swallow. Anyhow, I am the type of person that puts a lot of heart into what I do and I really want to deliver a great toast, but I am stuck. What do you talk about when you have no idea how they met, how it evolved and no stories about when she was younger? Help!
Thanks so much! Lost MOH
racheal, remember the wedding toast is optional. if you would still like to do something ….. look at the lower post, i suggested reading a poem.
here is an example:
hi, my name is ————- i am here today as (brides name) moh. it was an honor to be asked to stand by her side on this wonderful day, as she married my cousin (grooms name). wasn’t it just a beautiful ceremony? ( look around at guests and smile). today you began a new chapter in your lives; for the rest of your lives, i just know you will always be as happy as you are at this moment. as you walk through life i hope you remember 2 things: always stay young at heart and laughter is the best medicine. congratulations to the bride and groom!! raise glass.
for a couple of funny lines to add, you can look here.
*wedding toasts
Hello, i am so stuck! I am the MOH at my brothers wedding. Yup i said it, his bride to be asked me to be her MOH. I dont really know her all that well, and she gets on my nerves a lot. So how am i goin to write a speech for the wedding day? What do i say?
katie,
just keep it simple about the day you met her and when you knew she was special to your brother. keep it short, simple, and sweet. some have long speeches but it is not a have too. all speeches are optional, you could jsut stand up and give a sweet toast. you can even do a poem, i was moh in my sisters wedding, and that is what i did.
* wedding toasts
THIS is a great website, i love the samples here, heartfelt and perfect for the bride and groom.
I would start out with saying for those of you who do not know me, i am ——-, sister of the groom. it touches my heart to see two people joined together and in so much love. then begin poem here……
i would add a special touch especially if there is a band. i would pick a beautiful and sentimental song and dedicate it to them( example: my best friends wedding movie)
after poem, say. in honor of your love, i had the band play youthis song, i wish youboth a beautiful and blessed life together.
if you choose not to do a song. just end it with what i wrote previously, ending with congratualtions.
katie, oops! here is that GREAT website !!
* sample wedding toasts
hello, iam the MOH in my sisters wedding next year and iam only 15 and i have no idea what to say. we always were close and done stuff together but were never close when it came to guys and such. Pease help…any tips?
allie,
that’s ok cause i wouldnt mention noone except her new husband, the first time you knew they were meant for each other. i would talk about special times like:
*moh speech sample
*moh speech
these 2 above speeches have subtle yet “real” humorous lines in them. about getting in trouble together. if you want to look at more just google search maid of honor sample speech or maid of honor speech ( you will find a lot of links)
let me know if you need any more help and i will do whatever i can to help. this will be the perfect chance to let your sister know how much you love her.
I need speech help as well. I’m the MOH in my sister’s wedding coming up on May 17th. My sister and I grew up together, but we were never really close and she has expressed numerous times that she doesn’t like me (blames me for our father’s fatal heart attack, calls me a burden on my mom, etc.). She has mentioned several times that I am only MOH because our mom threatened to not attend if this wasn’t so. Needless to say, I’m lost when it comes to this speech. I’m also nervous about speaking in front of crowds as well (I have Social Anxiety Disorder and am unable to even speak in front of a class of 12 without stuttering horribly and sometimes fainting
), so I don’t want anything too long. I was advised by our mother that I’m not expected to give a speech due to our tumultuous relationship, but I feel that it would be a nice gesture, especially as MOH. Neither of them are the schmaltzy type, so maybe something on a little more of the humorous side? As children, we never really did much together and I honestly don’t know that much about her. Everything that I found when searching on Google involved cheesy sayings or anecdotes about the bride, both of which I’m trying to shy away from due to aforementioned reasons. If it’s any help, his name is Jesse and hers is Jessie; he was also born Nov 26, 1980 and she was born Nov 27, 1981. Any help at all would be greatly appreciated.
ash, i am sorry about your situation; though i know nothing about it i just feel led to say ( hope it is ok) that noone is to blame for those things.
in this situation a simple toast instead of a speech is fine. keep it short and sweet. google search funny maid of honor toast sample. remember dont try to force it just take your time and be yourself!!
*sample speech
just reading this, i feel very bad for you…. its hard to deal with siblings ,the best advice is to just wish them the best of luck maybe mention that the relationship with your sister was never very close but you can see that he has made her a better person (( even if its not true )) If your sincere & come from the heart then who knows maybe your sister will turn a new leaf and second guess her actions through the years. … dont be sarcastic or funny, she will only think that you are mocking her.
Hello! i’m from russia. english language is not my favorite, because i can not speak well :) and i’m going to be MOH of wedding of my friend in may, family of groom speak on your language :) can you imaging how is terrible will be my speech :)? and for me it was big surprise that speech of MOH must be sooo long! ya, i could speak about my friend for so long time in russian, but in english -
don’t know what to do :) any advices? 
kate,
you can put together a beautiful and heartfelt montage to play and say in lieu of a wedding speech i wanted to dedicate this to the bride and groom. or you can have an interpreter. the moh speech doesnt haev to be very long. google search moh sample speeches and it will give some ideas. another idea is practice alot on your speech and out of that your words may flow. hope this helps!!
Kate, why don’t you use share a russian saying or tradition? I bet wishing them a happy long marriage sounds GREAT in russian!
Hello I’m Heidi & im 19 years old. My sister (who is five years older then me) is getting married in June to her high school sweetheart. They had there ups and downs like most couples but i’ve always found them to be the perfect couple. My sister has done so much for me in my life and I really want to make this day perfect for her. There is going to be so many people there and Im having a hard time getting the speech just right!! I’ve written so many and i just can’t get it right.I have the tear-jerker part down i want something funny to grab everyones attention… Any Ideas pleaseeee help.
heidi, i hope these help you in writing the perfect speech!!
*Sample Maid of Honor Speeches
*Funny Maid of Honor Speech Examples ( the garbage line is very cute, not the horse one)
*wedding speech (just dont mention other guys at all, this is a really cute speech)
*this one is has tips and is sooo cute!
hello I just was asked to be the maid of honer for my freinds wedding. her and i did not grow up together we just went to school together. I really do not know much about her child hood just about her and her fiance journy to where they are at now can i have a speech on that there journey or no? and i want to know when i should start thinking about the speech and doing all the wonderfull planning like the bachlorette party and all that.
please help its in 6 months.
thank you
Amber
amber,
*Sample Maid of Honor Speeches
*Maid of Honor Speech
*Help me write my Maid of Honor Speech?
*Sample Speech 2( i like this one)
*How to Plan a Bachelorette Party
*bridesmaid 101
*Bachelorette Party
*How to Plan a Wedding & Bridal Shower
*Organizing a Bridal Shower
amber, also google search inexpensive bridal shower for some cost cutting tips( lots of links!) happy planning!!
This is my pickel. I am the maid of honor in my friends wedding. we met because I am dating her ex and the father of her daughter. We have gotten close over the last year and a half, so she asked me to be the maid of honor in her wedding. It’s great but I’m having trouble writing the “speach”. I haven’t know her that long(so no childhood stories),and talking about how we met would be akward. any ideas? please help!
meagan,
* Sample Maid of Honor Speeches
* Maid of Honor Wedding Toasts and Speeches
didnt find anything here? just google maid of honor speech samples.
I personally would just keep it short and sweet tell everyone how glad you are to be the maid of honor and how happy you are for the two of them and how much they both mean to you! that’s what counts ya know?
that was to: megan by the way and good Luck!
I’m really shy at giving speeches especially in large crowds. How do I over come that fear? My sisters wedding is coming up & she chose me as her maid of honor. Any advice? I want to make this special day memorable for her without being so nervous.
well best advice i can give is this….when writing your speech write it as if you are talking about them so its directed at the crowd and also write some directed at your sister and her husband. this way you can look at them both to help ease the pressure. Thats what i’m doing with my best friends speech as her maid of honor. i hate speaking in front of large crowds too. I’m only making my speech about a minute long.
I’m the maid of honor in my brothers wedding and I’ve known the bride for like 4 yrs I tryed to come up with a speech but its not funny at all and I think it might be a little depressing what should I do because I haven’t known her that long?
Melanie, don’t make the mistake of thinking you can’t do a great speech just because you haven’t known the bride forever. (But try to avoid a speech that’s depressing. Funny or romantic is better.) Just follow one of the speech “recipes” and you’ll be fine. There’s one below, I’ll repeat it:
1. Talk about how you became close with the bride. What is it about her that made you so happy to see her become part of the family? Maybe she really reached out to you, maybe you saw how she treated your brother like the prince he is. Or maybe she doesn’t take any flack from him, which he needs.
Or, talk about the bride & groom’s courtship and how excited he was, or she was. Many of a couple’s love & courtship stories don’t get told at a wedding because there isn’t time. If you can bring out a romantic anecdote, the couple will love it. Talk about how careful he was picking out his clothes for a first date or waxing his car or how he stayed up on the phone talking all night or had long-stemmed roses delivered to her office.
2. (this is repeated from below but changed since you know your brother so well) Give the bride a few brief, amusing hints about your brother’s likes and dislikes — how to keep him happy over a lifetime. Easy to make this funny.
Bring out his little quirks without embarrassing him.
3. Close by offering the couple your best wishes and a timeless piece of advice. This is a piece of cake — the web is FULL of ‘marriage advice’ material you can use. Avoid the cruder examples and choose the touching, gently funny or spiritual ones, depending on the couple and the crowd. Google for “marriage quotes.”
Remember that the audience is WAITING to laugh. You don’t have to be a comic genius to get a laugh, just say something a little amusing and they will support you. And keep things brief.
It will go great, just do your homework and all will be well! Best of luck!
I’m having 3 bridesmaids but not a MOH. They are all my BF’s from different times in my life. One that I’ve known since grade school and am still super close to, the other that I met in college and the third is my work colleague. What’s proper etiquette on having them all say a little something because they’ve each known me at a different time in my life?
Hey Erin.
I would suggest having the girls all do a speech together. Each saying a little about how they know you, and then take turns with other parts of the speech, ie. intro, how you met your partner, what he needs to know about you, and conc. etc.
HELP!!! i am the MOH in my (get this) boyfriend’s, brother’s wedding. I’ve known the bride for 3 years now. We have gotten very close but no really funny stories to talk about. Im not sure what i should say in my speech. Any advice?? THANK-YOU
Hello all! I was wondering if anybody can give me some advice on my toast speech? I’m the MOH in my sister’s wedding and there’s a quite a bit of an age gap (she’s 24 and I’m 13). I don’t do to well with the humor speeches, so i’m thinking more something from the heart. I’ve known the groom for about a year and he and my sister live together up the street from my parent’s house, so I see them alot, and I know the Groom semi-well, but not quite well enough to make jokes about their relationship or anything! Any advice on points to concentrate on when writing my notes and such?
I am the MOH in my best friends wedding. I’m nervous about the speech because the bride and groom should NOT be getting married!! Together for 10 years and 10 miserable years at that. I’ve never seen him appreciate her or look at her with loving eyes. They have broken up lots of times and he has cheated and left her for another girl. He came back after he was dumped I think and figured he’s not getting any better than my best friend. She is just not strong enough to take charge of her life and do what she knows is best for her. He asked and she said yes. So how do you celebrate something you totally disagree with, and I’m the MOH!
Hi Rachel,
I’m in the same situation your in. My sister is marrying a guy who so wrong for her. I can’t stand to be around him he bothers me so much. They were engaged once before and now they’re trying it again. She asked me last time to be her MOH and I’m sure she’ll ask again. I told my husband I’m going to say “no”.
He’s says I can’t do that. But the thought of me standing up on the alter with the two of them makes me sick to my stomach. My sister knows I don’t like him so maybe I could bow out easily and I’ll tell her to ask her best friend. I’ll put my share into the bridal shower and I’ll help her friends out as much as I can.
Just curious what kind of feed back you got. Any suggestions would help.
K-
YouTube is a wonderful resource for checking out real Maid of Honor speeches. I don’t know of a better way to learn in living detail what will come off well, and what you should never do.
There are lots of examples of What Not to Do (don’t try to make up your speech on the spot … don’t insult the bride or groom in any way … and don’t sob through your speech). And then there’s some really well-prepared MOHs who deliver some wonderful compliments to the couple — and deliver a speech that’s brief and sweet.
Here’s a good example of a successful MOH speech. Her angle is “cute things I learned from/about the couple.” She described the first time she met the bride-to-be, and how in love with her the groom obviously was. She did her homework and wasn’t afraid to bring up notes (don’t be!). As a result, she pleased the crowd & most of all made the couple very happy.
Here’s another great speech by a totally prepared MOH (again, she brought notes!) This is a great one to watch for MOHs who don’t know the bride or the groom that well — obviously a pretty common situation.
Couples like to emphasize how their romance was the most important ones in each others’ lives, even if they dated other people. Here, the MOH cleverly manages to convey how special the groom was to her best friend, the bride — even though the bride and the MOH were in separate parts of the country throughout the whole courtship. This is another speech the B&G are going to want to see again in their video.
My sisters wedding is june 28th and i am the MOH and.. i still dont have my speech done yet. i have no idea what to say… any pointers?
I am the maid of honor in my best friend’s wedding. We have been best friends for over 20 years and she is marrying someone she met in college down south. He is a real sweetheart but I don’t know him super well and I don’t know his family at all…. I am nervous about the wedding because that is the time when we will all meet and I am also concerned about my toast at the reception… I don’t want to make it too mushy and directly to my friend, I don’t know a lot about their dating life and I am just at a loss for words… I am afraid I will cry out of joy and not be able to speak… Any tips for meeting the family, the speech or how to stay composed?
Thanks!
Did I mention the wedding is only two weeks away?
Hi Alyssa, welcome!
On the crying thing: if you prepare and practice a speech ahead of time, you’re a little less likely to be overwhelmed by emotion. Of course, you might still cry a bit, that’s okay.
James Nardel (who wrote this article) has some great tips for your situation. For example, bring some tissue up front so you don’t end your speech with a Tammy Faye, wiping mascara off your face with your hands.
Also, here’s one of his “recipes” for a MOH speech when you know the bride well but not the groom:
1. Start with a story (funny if possible) about the bride and an important role she played in your life, or how you got to be such close friends. One story is enough.
2. Give the groom a few brief, amusing hints about the bride’s likes and dislikes — how to keep her happy over a lifetime, in other words.
3. Close by offering the couple your best wishes and maybe a timeless piece of advice for a spiritual, lasting marriage.
Hi. My Aunt is getting married in June. She asked me to be her maid of honor because we are more than aunt and niece, we are sisters. She has been an like and older sister to me in a million ways. Her and my soon to be uncle are the perfect couple and I need to know how to make my speech well enough to get through the sincere message I want to leave. Please help me!
OK SO MY OLDER SISTER IS GETTING MARRIED TO THE MOST WONDERFUL GUY IN THE WORLD AN IM HER MADE OF HONOR AND HAVE TO GIVE A SPEECH IM REALLY NERVOUS I KNOW I WANT TO SAY SOMETHING ABOUT HOW SHES ALWAYS BEENT HERE FOR ME BECAUSE IM 19 YEARS OLD AND JUST HAD A LIL BOY AND SHE WAS THERE FOR ME THE WHOLE TIME I WAS PREGNANT AND WAS IN TEH ROOM THE DAY I GAVE BIRTH SO I REALLY WANT TO MAKE THIS A SPECIAL SPEECH BUT IM SO STUCK PL SOEMONE HELP ME
ok so one of ym bridesmaids is coming in from out of state…how soon should i ask her to be here for final dress fittings and wedding rehersals and such?
hey guys soo im the maid of honor in my sisters wedding and im only 15 haha im so stuck on making this speech but i want to make it perfect and not make her regret having her little sister as her maid of honor, soo can anybody help me , please !
hey guys
i’m sancia and i have to make a speech at my cousins up coming wedding the advice that i can give you guys is just keep it short and simple making reference to the relevance of the bride and the groom don’t use anything too embarrasing if you talking about child hood memories
I am definitely in the same boat as Muriel. I am only 16 and I’m the MOH and I have to give a speech to 250+ people. Yeah fun. Plus I’m planning a bachelorette party I can’t even go to.
Although I may be the DD haha. So I think I’m going to see if my sister will help me co-write it.
Alright, I am really panicking here. My sister is getting married in a week and I just recently found out that I have to be the one to give a toast at their wedding. I am really limited in what I can say because we did not have the best relationship growing up, and we’re still not close now. (I’m really only the MOH by default because our other sister is only 11.) On top of that, my sister and her husband-to-be live something like 10 hours away, and I’ve only met him twice. It’s very difficult for me to say anything about they two of them together because I haven’t really seen them together too much, and I’ve hardly talked to her since she moved up North. Don’t get me wrong, I know they are very happy together, but I don’t have any little annecdotes to tell about them or about our childhood. Am I completely hopeless?
Jodi I am kind of in your shoes… I’m writing mine now. Just keep it short and sweet. I’m writing about how long I’ve known her and we’re really not friends and I barely know anything about the groom so… I’m looking online for tips and tidbits and kind of piecing them all together. I’m sure you’ll do fine if you either lead a prayer and/or do a comparison speech love is like a… rollercoaster… (popular speech ups and downs etc.)
Hey all, my husband did this when he was best man at a wedding, he pulled out a sheet of paper and read from it, giving tons and tons of compliments to the groom (he is the handsomest, toughest, most awesome, etc) and then said “Tony, I can’t read this last word you wrote, could you help me here? And a closing quote “to the wings of love, may the never lose a feather, but soar to the heavens above and last and last forever, to the bride and groom.
I am the maid of honor at my very close twin sisters wedding that is in two weeks. I get along okay with the hubby to be but I don’t like him all that much and I just can not think of happy romantic stories of them or anything to say! I am freaking out…….I am supposed to get up there and talk about how they are made for each other and I can think of a word! Yikes…..what do I say???
my best friend of almost 10 years is getting married w/ her boyfriend of 8 years….i dont know what to say ….im terrified of speaking in front of people and i really dont know what im going to say i need help!
I just been asked to be the best lady at my brothers wedding.
It’s both their second marrage and i did not like the bride when I first found out they were dating. Please help me make a special speech for their special day.
I’m moh at my sister’s wedding in 2008.I’ve never been, I need help with what i’m supposed to do but most of all the “Speech” and bachlorette party. What am I supposed to say, or do? I want it to be close to the best and the most memorable speech/party/wedding there could be!!
I have been asked to be the maid of honor at my sister’s wedding, and I’m really excited. However, i have no idea what to say in the toast. I am having a hard time coming up with a funny childhood story. We have tons of them im sure (were best friends) but i dont know what kind of topic would be entertaining to the crowd. Does anyone have any advice?
I’ve been asked to be the MOH at my mom’s wedding in a week.
I’ve been so busy trying to get everything else together that I completely spaced on the speech, and I have no idea what to say.
I’m only 16, so my stories about her raising me are kind of limited, so I’m kind of stuck.
Any suggestions?
Hi Hannah. It won’t make it less nerve-wracking, but it sounds like you’re the ideal person to handle this MOH speech. It would be very cute to talk about some of her early “romances” while she was waiting for her true love to come along. You know, nothing serious or threatening, but some funny anecdotes involving the paste-eating years. And, if you can remember any slam books or any quizzes or lists you did together as teens dreaming up the ideal guy (and of course, be sure to point out how the groom IS the ideal guy), people would love to hear that.
Since you know and like her fiance, it should be relatively easy for you to come up with a few ways they’re perfectly suited to each other. Funny ways are good, as long as they’re lighthearted and kind.
You’ll do a great job, don’t sweat it! You know everything you need to make a wonderful speech.
My friend has asked me to be the MOH in her wedding. I have a lot of time to prepare but i have no idea what to say. i’m really bad at giving speeches and not good with words sometimes. i want it to be perfect. we’ve known each other since kindergarden and her fiance is my friend as well….
The cutest speech I ever heard was at my cousins wedding - her sister told a story about her from when they were little… something about her being a little dorky ( which had everytone laughing) and how they ignored her when she said she was going to marry prince charming…. ended it with , “i guess you weren’t so crazy back then after all because you did find your prince charming…….” i don’t remember the whole thing word for word- but I thought the concept was very cute. good luck!
so my sister is also getting married in about a week and a half. im the maid of honor and im totally siked but i have to give a spweech and i have no clue what to say and on top of that im not all that great at standing in front of alot of people and talking.
what should i do?
Hey Brittany, my room mate had the same problem. Her sister’s wedding is while we are away at school. They arranged a bachelorette party at a place 18+ where everyone could get in. They also did the shower the next afternoon to avoid extra travel for her.
i am the maid of honor of my sister’s wedding and her wedding is going to be when i’m in school. but i’m still going and i’m not exactly sure what to do at the bachelorette party or at the wedding shower because i am underage… what should i do?
My maid of honour is extremly nervous giving a speech I was wondering would it be bad if she wrote one and the MC read it for her?
actually im the maid of honor for my sisters wedding and i have no idea what to say its in 2 weeks and i just found out that i needed to make a speech:D
Thanks Natasha!
Jill, that’s an interesting one!
It seems like there are some opportunities for humor there. For example, you could bring up some of the romantic advice your mother gave you growing up and apply it her new relationship.
Or, you can go for nostalgia, and talk about some of your mother’s happiest moments you’ve seen (being sensitive about previous relationships of course), tying that to her happiness now.
If your mother and her partner’s lives are going well (promotions, accomplishments), you can congratulate them on all the wonderful events of the past few years, pointing out that this is the biggest thing of all to congratulate for …
Or, try to think of a poem or song your mother really loves that fits the occasion, and read some of the words. Maybe even a book she shared with you when you were little that has a connection to love and partnership. Just some ideas.
My mom is getting married for the third time in a couple weeks. I recently learned that she is making me give a speech. It’s his first wedding. What is a girl to do?:-?
Okay my sister is getting married the end of July and I am trying to prepare a toast and I have looked at a number of websites for ideas but keep having to fill out stupid surveys inoreder to look at the websites. If anyone has ideas or a website please let me know:-?
yikes! i am the MOH for my sisters wedding i dont know what to say i looked for samples but it got me to this which doesnt really tell me anything because its other people asking questions to you but anyways i want my speech i give to be special and i want my sister to always remember the speech i give on her wedding day same with her hubby, my sister and her husband mean alot to me and everytime i ask someone to give me advice they always say , say it from your heart which i would if i only knew what to say…:((:D:D8-|:(:-”:-”
Hello! My best friend just asked me to be her MOH. The olny problem is that I really don’t know her Fiancee what do I do to get to know him better, and what do I say about him on my speech.
PLEASE HELP!!!
I need HELP. Im the Maid of Honor for my best friend wedding. I get very nervous when i have to speak infron of people. Please help me. Its been 14 years since we know each other. We whet to high school together. Then she became my roomate whene we where in college. I need help!!!
I need help! I am the MOH in my mothers wedding Next week May 19th and I have researched what to say to her and my new stepfather. I know that she will expect something funny as well. I don’t know where to go! Please help if you have any suggestions or websites that I can research. Thanks so much!
Teressa-
I know the feeling! My BFF asked me to be her MOH, but I’m at college about 400 miles away. Keep in touch with her…e-mail, phone, snail mail, whatever you have. Also, remember that you might be able to find something that the bride doesn’t have in her town that you do! Keep in mind that the bride chose YOU to be her MOH-you hold a special place in her heart.
Best wishes to all involved!
-Kathleen
my best friend of almost 10 years is marrying her boyfriend that she’s been with for 4 years now… she knows that i am TERRIFIED of speaking in front of large audiences, but still requested me to make a speech. She knows that i am flattered to be chosen over her own sister to be her maid of honor, so i dont know what to do about this situation. i have always had a phobia of speaking in front of people, any advice please!!!!!!!
Christina- it would be okay to acknowledge that you haven’t known them for very long but you could let everyone know what your first impression was when you first saw them together. Are there any funny moments since then? If you don’t have much to say just wish them a lot of love and thank them for letting you be a part of their wedding.:P
I have a similar dilemma, about a year ago I moved out of the state. I am the M.O.H. for my life long best friend, but how can a help plan a wedding 1,000 miles away. So she has the next bridesmaid doing a lot of the planning. I want to help as much as possible, so the other bridesmaids don’t hate me for doing my work. What are some simple things I can do to help living so far away?
I’m the MOH for a girl i have only been friends with for maybe a year. I’ve known her for 5years but we never started hanging out until about a year ago. I do want to give a speech to make her feel special, i just don’t know what to say. She’s dated this guy for 7 years so they were together for a long time before i even knew them!! Any Advice???
In a time when tradition is out, and being a trendsetter is definitely the new “tradition”, why not ask someone else to give the speech. Have your mother or aunt give a speech or, heck, even your dad. Who says the MOH has to give a speech? Ask one of the other bridesmaids.
Chances are your MOH was probably a flake when you asked her to be part of your ceremony, so there must be some other reason why you asked her. Try to channel that rather than kicking her out of her position.
If all else fails, you could just forgo the speeches altogether (most of the time they’re a let down anyway). You and your new hubby could stand up and s thank the family and friends, who without your day would not be nearly as special, for being there.:D>-
JESSICA:
I ran into a similar problem with my maid of honor. How many girls are standing for you? Looking back on the days leading up to my wedding and how I should have kicked my M.O.H our of her position, I would definately recommend you talking to her and telling her that you have enough on your plate without worrying about her. Ask one of your other girls to be the M.O.H. This will be one of the most memorable days of your life, don’t let her ruin the days leading up to it. Trust me, my maid of honor showed her true colors to me during my wedding prep days….I totally regret having her. I guess some girls have jealousy issues to deal with. Get rid of her…she’s being selfish.
I am the bride and i don’t trust my Maid of honor to even have a speech. She is the only one who still doesn’t have her dress. What am I to do.
I have to give a speech for my best friend for a renewing of her vows. They have been together for 10 years and yes they have through a lot and i am so proud to know that she has made it. I pray that she makes it for many more years. I just don’t know what to say but I do want her know that i am happy for her.
I am my best friends maid of honor. I am trying to prepare a speach. I do not know what to write about. Even worse I hate talking infront of large crowds and there will be about 150 people there. Do you have any ideas.
I am so lost vis-a-vis the speech. I am the maid of honor in my MOTHER’S wedding (July 2007). I feel that because I am her daughter she will expect the speech to be moving and funny at the same time! I have no idea what to say. Help!
I am having the same dilemma!…which is why I am very nervous about the speech. I would appreciate advice as well if anyone can share???
Dear Kristi: I recommend that you talk about your best friend’s qualities, and what you admired about her growing up. You may have been apart for awhile, you could say, but that hasn’t dimmed your friendship. In your speech, you may want to tie those admirable traits and wonderful qualities to her new marriage, and explain how they’ll make for a wonderful union.
You might say that you may not know the groom very well yet, but that he makes your best friend happy and has won the heart of a very special woman, which says volumes about him. You may find more helpful tips at http://www.easyweddingtoasts.com.
Ok - So, I’m the Maid of Honor at my best friend’s wedding coming up in June of 2007. Here is my “speech dilemma”. I have lived in another province since we both graduated highschool and I don’t really know her and here fiancee as a couple. Any words of wisdom for me?