Make a Big Impression With Your Wedding Invitations
The wedding invitation can convey a lot more than the “who, what, where and when” of your wedding. The invitation gives your guests their first glimpse into your wedding’s inner workings. You can hint at the degree of formality you’ll be aiming for, and even at your wedding theme, if you’ve already gotten that far in your planning.
In fact, your invitations can communicate a lot to your guests before they really know whether or not they can attend.
Wait for the Date
Of course, the most important information that’s going to appear on your invitation is your wedding details. Don’t order your invitations until you’re absolutely sure your venues can give you the times and locations you asked for. You’ll also want to make sure that your “can’t live without them” guests are free to come on the day you chose. All this checking can save a lot of confusion and re-mailing later on. You wouldn’t believe how many brides end up having to send out two invitations because of just these sort of problems (and how many recipients get confused as a result).
Borrow a Fresh Pair of Eyes
Another common problem: not proofreading the invitation carefully enough before sending it to the printer’s (or printing it out yourself). The problem for most brides is that they know the information by heart. They know it so well that even if there’s a typo or a mistake, they may not see it at all (much like you didn’t see that weird sentence fragment after finishing up your World History essay at four a.m.). It’s important to hand the mocked-up invitation to someone else for proofreading before you have your final invites made. Here’s a checklist of elements to look over carefully for possible errors:
- The date and time of the wedding
- The name and address of the church or temple
- Your names, and your parents’ names
- The punctuation throughout the text
Accurate, carefully-worded information will make a great impression on your guests. More importantly, it helps ensure they won’t miss a minute of your day!
Lead With the Theme
If your wedding has a theme, the invitation is a great way to start your creative juices flowing, while letting your guests in on the fun. For example, if you’re going to have a Wild West wedding, work in some Stetsons and boots imagery. If you’re planning a beach theme, choose an invitation with a gorgeous beach photo floated into the background. You can still get as fancy and use all the vellum you want without losing your theme — just be creative. Of course, not all weddings have themes, but if yours does, be sure to launch the fun with your invitations.
I Say Tomato, You Say To-Mah-To
The wording on your invitation says a lot about the level of formality your guests should expect at your wedding — and your writing style should match the event itself. So if you want a more easy-going atmosphere, feel free to be creative, original and pretty informal both in your font and word choices. But if your wedding’s more of a black-tie affair, use the most traditional language (and traditional fonts). Generally speaking, it’s not such a hot idea to use slang or vulgarity on your invitation, but if your wedding’s going to be more casual and come-as-you-are, then by all means, lighten up the language.
Another aspect of your invitation that can make a big impression and communicate a lot to your guests is the paper you use. A more formal or elegant wedding calls for a finer, linen-style paper with embossed print. Of course, this comes at a price. But if you’re going for a less formal look, and maybe including imagery or attention-getting fonts, you can probably go with a less expensive, less ornate paper and a much less expensive printing process. A good printer will show you lots of possibilities in a variety of price ranges, and these days, you can print some beautiful, sleek-looking invites right off your computer with a handy kit you buy online or at craft stores.
The best way to let your guests know what to expect from your wedding is by sending out an invitation that “talks” through imagery, tone and text. Of course, the critical part is that the information inside is totally accurate, but beyond that, you can assemble a personal style that shows your guests exactly what to expect on your big day.










So I realized that in my slight rant that your question of what to do was not answered.
Perhaps you and your future daughter in law could sit down together to discuss this. Without anyone else, make it a confortable situation so that she doesnt go on the defense. In this environment she can say things that she probably would not in front of her mother in regards to WHY they feel this way and without your son so it doesnt feel like he has to play mediator. Make it clear to her that you are hurt by this and disappointed (because you have raised your son and want to be honoured etc.) This will go a long way in dissipating tension now and in the future (life goes on after the wedding!)
Hope this helps
I think that this is a horrible tradition. While my MIL paid for a portion of the wedding (and reherasal dinner) my husband and I along with my parents paid for the majority. Marriage is about uniting two families together NOT for the brides family to own the show. Our invitation was worded:
Love was meant to be shared
with parents, family and friends.
Because you have shared in their lives
we Parents of the Brides and Mother of the Groom
would be honoured by your presence at the marriage of our children
BRIDE
and
GROOM
etc
We felt that this was appropriate for both of our parents and for all the friends and family that have contributed to our lives. While this may not be appropriate for very formal affairs several of our guests commented on how the invitation made them feel very special.
My question is why do they not want you to be included? I do not understand this at all especially because you are contributing financially. What about all the time and effort you have spent raising your son into the man that the bride fell in love with. Do you not have the right to be honoured as well?
It isn’t really a question of whether it is “right”, or not… It is more a question of feelings versus formality. The wedding is traditionally a celebration for the bride’s parents if you look at wedding traditons… But since you are assisting in funding the festivities, I would feel much as you do. Maybe recommend having both sets of parents listed at the bottom. Such as on the left hand side
Parents of the Bride
Joe and Joy Jones
with yours looking the same on the left. I am a bride myself, and this is how we will be doing things. Another thing my fiance and I though of doing was saying something like,
Together with their parents
Joyce Jones
and
Tyler Smith.
Just some suggestions. Good luck!
Our son’s fiancee wants to order invitations with only her parents name on the top so as to “honor” her parents. She does not want our names listed as the “the son of” on the invitiation. We are offended by this….is she right in excluding us? She and her Mom have asked us to help pay for the wedding as it has exceeded their budget. It has caused a great deal of tension between us, our son and his bride to be. What should we do?